[QUOTE]Originally posted by elmo28:
eating disorders are all in the mind! greta deal of it comes down to attention seeking. QUOTE]

Its hardly fair to say anorexia nervosa and anyother eating disorders are attention seeking.

I have "beer" Bulimia

Does that count

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Originally posted by CHLAY:

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Originally posted by elmo28:
eating disorders are all in the mind! greta deal of it comes down to attention seeking.

Its hardly fair to say anorexia nervosa and anyother eating disorders are attention seeking.

Medically, it's perfectly fair to say that it can be attention seeking. It's just that the words "attention seeking" have a bit of a stigma about them, because it puts people in mind of a child doing silly things to get noticed.

But it doesn't mean that; it means "attention seeking" in the sense that you feel you're insignificant and you want people to take notice of you so that you'll start to feel more significant (i.e. people will show that they care).. which is a lot more profound than the phrase "attention seeking" initially implies.

Not that I'm saying all self-harmers or anorexics are like this. I used to self-harm for the adrenaline release when I was horribly depressed, and I'd be mortified if anyone noticed what I'd done. Similarly, I've struggled with eating disorders because I don't want to be fat, but I hate it when people mention that I don't eat much.

It's different for different people.

Doctors &Parents tell me I'm anorexic.
I thought I just didn't like eating.
Food doesn't taste good.

Its a psychological thing.
I physically cannot eat
& if I do, I just throw up.
None of it's intentional.

Well, I mean, deep down it is,
but I don't conciously do it.

I get told that i hav an eating disorder by family and friends but its just that i cant eat much and if I eat a normal amount i throw up

i've had anorexia, bullemia and i self harm, not as much as i used to though. its not attention seeking its lke releasing tension and even when i'm happy i still self harm and when im down i tend to either self harm or binge. its not fun, at the time i feel better but then i just feel guilty. sorry if that ounds depressing but thats the way it is for ome

You'll often find people who do it for attention make it pretty obvious that they have a problem.

People who don't think they have a problem will carry on and it will become a way of life until they are "found out" if you will..

Yeah...

I use to not eat abt a year ago but got ova it. since skins has been on my eating disorders started again. im 5ft 9 an weight 118pounds. I dont lyke sleeping much either, any more then four hours a night feels 2 much, it make me feel lyke im wasting tym when i could b awake. I'm not drinking now but 6months ago i used 2 spend 400quid on beer a month from my apprentisship money, that went on 4 a year, i smoking lesson now 2

I posted this because i wanted 2 know if anyone else has simular problems and why. I've neva been 2 a doctor so as far as thre concerd im good and healthy, my parent dont realy know, thre getting suspisious abt the eating and my dad and me use 2 get in fight abt the drinking, but besides that its all good

hope nx weeks episode is good

I watched a program last night about eating disorders, it was based in a special clinic some where, can't remember the exact location, but it was really in depth and informative. if any one is interested it was called "help I'm a child anorexic" or something a like that. I only really watched it because of Cassie, I never realized how serious a problem eating disorders can be until now. And as for self harming, I've cut myself a couple of times, the first time was because I wanted to see what was so, um..... appealing (if you will) about it. the second was because of a very serious relationship ending. But more seriously even than that, at times when my depression (i used to suffer on a medical level) was at it's worst, I'd do things like intentionally fall down the stairs, or try to hang myself from the cloths pole in my cupboard, some times I'd do that latter of the 2 just for the rush upon release. Nothing I've ever done was through attention seeking, but I used to know someone who we all though was. she would cut her wrists all the time because she thought no one cared about her, then she would come into school wearing short sleeved tops and looking really depressed, the short sleeved tops is what made us think she was just attention seeking. However I once saw first hand just how serious her problem really was, I don't want to make myself out to be like some savior or some thing, but I actually saved her life. It was simply a right place right time thing, I'm no hero or anything I was passing by her house and thought I'd pop in to she how she was doing. Her little sister (only about 7 at the time) answered the door and said that she was sleeping, turns out she had actually tried to OD on sleeping pills. After that every one gave her the attention we all though she had been seeking. she agreed that we would keep it between ourselves that I was the one who helped her though, because I didn't want all the attention, I used to prefer to keep myself to myself if you know what I mean.

Wow, I don't really know what to say, nobody I know ever went that far as far as I know..Is she ok now? And You?

I dunno, I will admit, even if it makes people hate me, that part of the reason why I used to cut myself was attention, I felt nobody cared, however I wore long sleeve tops, and I hid it so I was a bit of a contradiction there...I dunno, I wanted to be loved, yet if somebody show any sign of caring I would get incredibly uncomfortable...The main reason I did it (I think because to this very day I still don't understand) was to punish myself, I felt that people didn't like me because my own fault, and that everything that I ever went wrong was my fault...I wanted to commit suicide at some point to end it all, and because I felt that some people would be better without me...but I thought that I had to be there for my mum and sister, even if I didn't feel they cared, I just had to look out for them, plus going through the pain and unhappiness in my life was much more punishing that ending it all through death :/

Anyway, I feel like I'm attention seeking again so I'll stop...

i dont think that i have had an eatin dissorder, but in sayin that, i do like the way i feel when i am hungry, i like to not eat alot to be honest but i dont go over bored with it. and i also have self harmed. i dont do it for atention as some people say, i eat when i have to and hide scars from everyone. but i love this show coz i can relate to cassie, i need to find a nice girl like her lol. is it just me that wants to cuddle her and look after her?? lol

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Wow, I don't really know what to say, nobody I know ever went that far as far as I know..Is she ok now? And You?

Me I'm fine now, I mean I do tend to make mountains out of mole hills though when things go wrong, but I was severely emotional damaged when my parents split up, so I guess that has something to do with it, I have been working on it though trying to control myself more, and my insomnia keeps flaring up from time to time. as for her, I wouldn't know, I haven't seen her for nearly a year and a half now, but I've heard she been doing alright.

I don't think you are attention seeking, mearly explaining yourself, theres nothing wrong with that. I also thought about suicide once, for similar reasons, but came to the conclusion that in doing so I would only be hurting the people that I love, and I couldn't do that, because my ultimate goal in life has always been to make people smile, to make sure people are happy and most of all to cherish those that I love and to keep them safe.
you shouldnt worry yourself when you open up to people online, to be honest I find it much easier that talking to people. I don't like to let my feelings show to people, because I was ridiculed for it in high school. Unless I feel particularly strongly about something.

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is it just me that wants to cuddle her and look after her?? lol

No.

i personaly do not think its attention seeking anything but because i used to suffer with bulliemia as i never thought anyone cared about me or noticed me and i was depressed

Latley people have been calling me anorexic and depressed when im not i no exactly what people are going through

Well Q_is_a_good_letter (god that's a long name lol) that's really good to hear (the part where your better ) and I'm glad to hear it

And I try to control myself, but I still manage to get quite bad sometimes, but its just who I am, just hate the fact that I managed to relapse recently, just feel like I let everybody down...:/

And I can relate to the seperation thing (like Sid yesterday) my parents split up about 10 years ago, since then my dad has moved quite far away, got married and has one kid (with another on the way) I basically don't really see him anymore, and personally I prefer it, because him and my mum hate eachother, and I've had enough of it from him...ah well

And yeah, opening up to people online is easier, its nice to talk about stuff, some of my friends will never find out about this stuff...I mean lol, one of my friends said once, regarding me being unhappy, "whenever I feel depressed, I just think that Olivier (that's me) is feeling worse and that makes me feel better" :/ ah well...

And regarding wanting to give Cassie a hug, I really want to, I feel that her personality is perfect, weird I know, but she bubbly, and can be happy and funny, yet she does have these underlying problems, so I can relate to her, and we could understand eachother, and help eachother, and I feel it means she's not superficial...I'd love to end up with someone like that, strange I know

Anyways, I rambling on again lol so I'll stop

(P.S. xBrokenWingsx, you feeling better now?? Believe me, I genuinally care about you people, its not me trying to gain brownie points :P)

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Originally posted by swarrypop:
any1 out there suffering from it please take a good look in the mirror nd c that ur beautiful!!!

I'm not beautiful, you should see me...I'm not anorexic or anyhting though. I self harm, not often, not for attention either, I get all scared that people will find out and think I'm some kinda freak, if they don't already. My friend asked and I said it was my cat, it's believable. Not sure why I'm saying all this, I sound like a bit of an idiot, which is true I guess.

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Originally posted by spaceXdementia:

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Originally posted by swarrypop:
any1 out there suffering from it please take a good look in the mirror nd c that ur beautiful!!!

I'm not beautiful, you should see me...I'm not anorexic or anyhting though. I self harm, not often, not for attention either, I get all scared that people will find out and think I'm some kinda freak, if they don't already. My friend asked and I said it was my cat, it's believable. Not sure why I'm saying all this, I sound like a bit of an idiot, which is true I guess.

thats funny...i mean strange funny not laughing funny...because i said it was my best friends dog....i feel really gay now though cause its healed but really obvious..
i think i have ocd because i dont eat if i can avoid it if im anywhere but home. at home im ok. and also i dont like eating foor because i think their might be some kinda germ thats gonna kill me in it or something and im scared that bugs are going to eat me if i eat food or walk on carpets...and the whole self harm thing...well i did it because i was upset i guess...and kinda drunk...and ever since then i have an attraction to sharp things...i cant stop thinking about them...maybe im just a little crazy. or maybe its cause im tired right now because i've been sleeping okay ish. ive been an insomniac for years and have trained my body to get energy from not sleeping somehow...
anyway if anyone wants to know ways on sorting out a few things in your head then ask me cause im so crazy ive probably gone through the exact same thing in my head. =)