When I was younger my mom and I used to be so close. We did everything together. She took me to soccer practice, watched all 12 years of dance recitals, sat through horrific band concerts.

But nowadays it just seems like we're moving farther and farther apart. Even though I see her all the time I still feel like I miss her or something that we used to have. I need to make an effort to get closer to her again. Any suggestions?

without know your age its difficult to answer this question but people and relationships change as the years go by - you will have changed since the days when you were young and your mam used to take you to all kinds of activities. Now you are presumably older you probs dont need to rely on your mam so much to take you here, there and everywhere and have you considered that your mam wants to do things for herself - seems like she has been there for you at every opportunity when you were growing up but maybe she needs to do her own thing. Not sure what to suggest to get back the closeness you miss. Maybe there is an activity you could both participate in rather than her being the spectator as in the past. Possibly a class or hobby or sport that you could do together - good luck and let us know how you progress

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Originally posted by SmileReal:
When I was younger my mom and I used to be so close. We did everything together. She took me to soccer practice, watched all 12 years of dance recitals, sat through horrific band concerts.

But nowadays it just seems like we're moving farther and farther apart. Even though I see her all the time I still feel like I miss her or something that we used to have. I need to make an effort to get closer to her again. Any suggestions?

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Originally posted by aloo:
without know your age its difficult to answer this question but people and relationships change as the years go by - you will have changed since the days when you were young and your mam used to take you to all kinds of activities. Now you are presumably older you probs dont need to rely on your mam so much to take you here, there and everywhere and have you considered that your mam wants to do things for herself - seems like she has been there for you at every opportunity when you were growing up but maybe she needs to do her own thing. Not sure what to suggest to get back the closeness you miss. Maybe there is an activity you could both participate in rather than her being the spectator as in the past. Possibly a class or hobby or sport that you could do together - good luck and let us know how you progress

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Originally posted by SmileReal:
When I was younger my mom and I used to be so close. We did everything together. She took me to soccer practice, watched all 12 years of dance recitals, sat through horrific band concerts.

But nowadays it just seems like we're moving farther and farther apart. Even though I see her all the time I still feel like I miss her or something that we used to have. I need to make an effort to get closer to her again. Any suggestions?

Good post aloo I agree with everything you have said ,wish you all the best Smile Real

maybe you have both changed as the years have gone by and you do not have the same kind of relationship you had when you were younger, however, this could be because you are now more adult than child and will be a different person yourself and not capable fo the same child/adult relationship of yesteryear. Think of it as a progression rather than lack of closeness and like it has already been suggested try and find some common ground, some activity which you could both participate in and that could help with the situation you now find yourself in. Could be your mother wants you to have some 'space' for yourself, maybe she wants some 'space' for herself. Maybe she doesnt want to come across as controlling or babying you and she wants you to be your own person. Would be interested how things progress for you so come back soon please

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Originally posted by SmileReal:
When I was younger my mom and I used to be so close. We did everything together. She took me to soccer practice, watched all 12 years of dance recitals, sat through horrific band concerts.

But nowadays it just seems like we're moving farther and farther apart. Even though I see her all the time I still feel like I miss her or something that we used to have. I need to make an effort to get closer to her again. Any suggestions?

if you had posted this on BB General you would have had a dozen replies by now. Not too late to ask for it to be transferred or post again in the other forum which is far more lively and interesting

such a shame when people go to the bother of giving advice and the OP doesnt reply or give further feedback I always think

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Originally posted by aloo:
if you had posted this on BB General you would have had a dozen replies by now. Not too late to ask for it to be transferred or post again in the other forum which is far more lively and interesting