This can be the place where you post if you are having any personal problems you want to share with the family! im gonna get us started off im afraid

well, im no longer concerned that i feel desperately lonely since losing my girlfriend [and my gw]... now i have somthing else to ocupy myself

my grandad is staying at the moment, and i try so hard to be civil, but hes very offensive and has a superioty thing. hes also quite rcist to people, including my friends anyway, he loves to stir trouble and though i knowi should be filled with respect he makes it very hard. when i failed one of my exams he was there to call me a drop out, a failure, for the scrapheap [just rolls off me after a while...] and now ive been sacked, hes loving it! keeps on reminding me he never got sacked in his life, saying i'll never make it in anything in life. [even though i KNOW i have potential to be sucessful ]. even just now when i filled up the dishwasher wrong my dad started complaining, and my grandad just waded in , sayin all sorts, to try and stir things. he was saying that he wonders why my dad bothers keeping me in the house... see i gad to leave my mums house, as i had a real problem with my spetdad, and still do. in fact my mums reaction to me being sacked is that she never wants to speak to me again. im not even overexaggerating. i mean, i made a mistake, most kids are out getting stoned and arrested and stuff when they get kicked out...

im not being funny either, and im certainly not an attention seaker, but i was adopted at 3, and then my parents split when i was 8, then i was kicked from my mums house about 2 years ago and now im here, and my grandad visits regulary to stir things up. to be honest i cant wait till i have a bit of stability , when i [hopefully] move to liverpool and start at uni, lol i never thought about this much, but to be honest i not had much stability have i, lol!

i just think that theres loads of people worse off, and you should make the best out of everything! always try and be happy

you do really good topics!

aww yeah be happy!! sometimes older people are a bit funny - very old fashioned and they stick to their views cos thats what they were brought up with.

youre gonna love uni, lots of freedom and it will give u a chance to relax and grow as a person.

ill be back after skins to moan xxxxxx

i love your threads terry!!!

well no matter what you will always belong here!! we've all been there with parents. i was living with my mum, nan and aunty before i got my place with my boyfriend. it was like having three mums, i was constantly getting shouted at! its part of life unfortunately. just take it in your stride, you'll be old enough to leave and do as you pease soon!

where did you get sacked from? dont worry about it, you'll find another part time job easy!

where you in a foster home before you were adopted? xxxxxx

hehe its a comfort to know i got my big bro lol

erm problems with oldies, come to me, as i work part time in a nursing home. Flattery usually works a treat, and an extra biscuit with their tea, and also do something that invloves them for example talk about the war, and try and impress them hope it works

lol, nice ideas ppl! knew i could count on you

nnoottaaggaaiinn feel really bad for you. it will get better honest just think of the fun you'll have when you leave. remember we're all here for you. Sending a big hug.


really heart you

my problem is going to sound so shallow and self obsessed now! i know im being pathetic, its not a problem as such, just an annoyance, anyway see if you can offer advice:

im quite into my appearance, i dont love myself (far from it!) but i want to try and look good (especailly as a budding actress!) my younger sis is soooo pretty, everyone says she looks like me (except she is tall and really slim) she has just had a brace taken off and has hollywood teeth and it has made me have a good look at my own teeth! my top row are really straight, however, my bottom lot are slighty crooked, my mum says you cant even tell but its getting on my last nerve! i want really nice teeth, its making me loose confidence!! i know i sound pathetic but does anyone know if anything can be done??? lol!!!

i hate everything right now

i may have missed the deadline for my field course which means i cant go

i dont understand the articles for my exam thats is tomorrow, which loads of the questions are based on

im going to fail

i hate everything

the teeth thing, send a photo of ye jaw and ill be honest! i actually quite fancy being a model, i shud show piccy!

as 4 exams... ive just been through them, relax. its a few hours of your time... focus, but remember whatsoever important is your happiness! dont let exams be bigger than you, they will be in past soon, and its you who has the future! good luck

how do i send you a pic of my bottom teeth???? they're not crooked more like slightly wonky, but im scared they will get worse!!! what can i do???

thanks guys, im feeling really sh*tty. maybe speak 2 u 2moro x

heres a BIG hug and kiss for everyone! *hug*

Hope your feeling better Mel big hug and good luck

Believe me everything gets better a year ago everything collapsed x put me into a few walls on boxing night in front of the police he had called to have me removed from our flat that was in my name and I was in bed when he called them.

I stood my ground and left him finally much to the relire of my family he had previously put a sword to my throat. I took the weaponary incl throwing stars etc and move into my own house.

He tried to get me back and kept coming round and a few times i almost cracked. but i had been pregnant when he assulted me and i lost the baby. Refused his plea bargin in court and he was found guilty of assulting me. I described his v. wierd beheaviour to our doctor and she suspects sychsophrenia. He now wanders my garden at night but I don't care.

Got a successful business great family wonderful friends that came back after he spent years cutting me off from them. The 2 kittens muse and boo am appliying to adopt as well. He has nothing is having to pay me back£2500 he owes me at £40 a week that the gov. take out of his wages.

See if I can survive this you will all be fine. It feels so good to get this out of my system

ulifas, you are so strong!

im so pleased you have come out of that terrible relationship. he sounds like an awful man and you clearly deserve so much better.

welldone!!!

sadly as he seems to suffer from sychsophrenia ( why couldn't it be easier to spell) one of him is a complete b*****d and the other is the loveliest bloke ever except for Mac. Thats the one i married the other only started to reappear after 3 years only v. occassionally at first but by the end was there 95% of the time. SWhen i went to bed that night he was fine but he dreamt something and woke up the other way convinced it was real.

Got 2 blokes to pick between at the moment and they are 2 seperate people this time. One not known long the other i've known for 5 years we kept in touch by text and through my sister he's been so glad everytime I left x and upset everytime i went back. Even offered to come to the court with me and has waited patiently while I got myself together again and in his words became the girl he'd met 5 years ago cos my confidence etc. got destroyed. Apparently i have no talent thats why i keep getting awards for my work.

Anyway meeting the friend at a concert in a few weeks so will let you all know what happens

best of luck ulifas!!! you deserve a nice man who'll treat you with the respect you deserve. x

yes i do as do we all or a nice girl depending. hopefully theres enough jrt to go round. did we come up with any ideas about my cloning idea i came up with ages ago?

Maybe we can sort it out by the time he's on stage if we all go and see it.

Having a great day the NIN tickets have just turned up Yeay Trent Reznor *drool*

Still not as *drool* as JRT * drool drool*

gosh you are so strong! so glad youre rid of that guy and good luck with these 2!!!

thanks for all the support nice to know people i've meet can be so nice wish I'd found you all when it was going on . We have to all meet up.I don't know if im strong think it was more a matter of survival and proving him wrong.

Not rushing into anything with either of these my sanity is worth more than a man

oh we will all deffo meet up, hopefully after the signing *crosses fingers* then we will all go for a nice meal and a drink!

or the theater

this all sucks for all of us huh?
good to get it out and talk about it though. and everyone here is so supportive - i love it!

well my story;
I have been diagnosed as clinically depressed.
my parents control every aspect of my life. they want me to be a good english girl at study and a good asian girl at home. I'm 21 and my post is opened, i have my meals controlled, i'm not allowed to spend my money (as they check my statements), i'm going to be a doctor - but i don't even know if i even wanted that in the first place. i still have my clothes bought for me. i'm not allowed to cut my hair! I still get picked up and dropped off at uni!!!!!
I should be grateful but theres a point when trying to do what they think is the best goes way past over-protective....and it's not really a religion (which i don't really belive in anyway) or a cultural thing...i think.
they seem to be more concerned about how they are percieved by others than my own happiness sometimes - or atleast thats what it feels like....
i'm not allowed out of the house. i'm not meant to speak to boys - oh if only they knew lol.
but this atually puts me off wanting a realtionship - cus i'm petrified of getting caught. and actually being with a guy kinda freaks me out...lol
i've bever been ice-skating.... you know the little things
i have to lie and say i'm at lectures just to go to the cinema! and even then i'm worried i'd get caught. cus the bloody asain community here knows everyone and they'd prob call my folks up and say i saw ur daughter in town....!

and i hate it but because of the way i've been bought up i really dependant on them!

i'll have an arranged marriage - which i'm still not sure how i feel about it, and they won't talk to me about it.

i'm doing medicine - which i am enjoying (except exams), but it's frustrating looking around and always seeing everyone live their lifes - or screw things up when they don't realise how lucky they are!

all my old shcool freinds ahve moved on and have experienced life, and i'm still in my little bubble just watching everyone move on.
i still feel like i did when i was 13 you know?

sorry for going on.

will promise to be cheerier soon and not rant on so much.

oh and i have exams in two weeks. and no-one to spend valentines day with....
i just want someone to take me in their arms and tell me that everything will be ok (even though they would be lying). and a kiss on the forehead. and just watch some silly nonsense on the tele. or even some GW - and demand that he kiss me like Mac. lol *sigh*

heeeby!! my good friend!

i kinda know how u feel, but ur parent are just trying to do what they think is best for you, i know it kinda sucks. my mums always ringing me and stuff and im kinda like - let me be independant!!

your exams will be fine though dont worry, and you WILL find someone! not SM though cos hes mine

love u cuz