I am 20 years old. I had a baby girl at the age of 18. She is my whole world. Although i love her to bits and i dont regret having her i feel like my life is not fulfilled.
I have a fantastic partner who is my daughters daddy. I love him to bits and he loves me. He gives me lots of freedom.
But my life is still not fullfilled.
I work part-time down a pub. What am i missing out on?
I go out with friends every now and then.
I feel like i want a thrill out of life. I dont want to be the boring ordinary person i am.
I want to do something illegal or something totally out of character. I want a kick.
Did i really give it all up when i had my daughter?

From a very confused young parent.

what qualifications do you have?

Is there something you have always wanted to do career wise? Maybe you could look into stepping towards this.

You are doing a valuable job bringing up your little girl but i can see why you want more out of life - you are still young and can do what you want.

Please don't go and do 'something illegal'. It won't get you anywhere good!

Let me know if you have any thoughts.

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Please don't go and do 'something illegal'. It won't get you anywhere good!

LOL. Sorry i dont know WHY i said i wanted to do something illegal! I really really dont! I wouldn't put myself at risk of being in THAT much trouble that i would get banged up or something. Being away from my daughter for just a weekend is enough for me - for any longer i would go insane! So please dismiss that comment i made - i dunno what made me say that?

I have a lot of qualifications in business administration and so could probably fulfill working needs doing a secretarial/office job. However i dont want to do that. I would love to be a midwife. I have already decided that when my daughter starts school im going to look into going back to college to study to become a midwife. But this wont be for another 3 years.

Last night i dreamt of getting a new hobbie. I didnt know what to go for, was thinking of cycling or swimming - but in the end in the dream i didnt do anything and i was very dissappointed.

I think this may be a big factor in my life! Maybe i need to do something different. Or get a new hobbie. But what can i do?

it might be worth looking into what courses local colleges offer or learn direct type things to help you on your way to your goal of becoming a midwife. Alternatively could you maybe get involved in helping out a local mother/toddler group or creche? Your little girl could go with you then and make friends herself. And then your application to uni/nmas for your midwifery course would be boosted by this.

Let me know if you have any thoughts. I am really interested to see how it goes for!

Isn't this one that you need to change your thinking on.

Any on of us can choose to focus on the things that we are not doing in our lives. But I think it helps to focus on the things we have .

Also, life is long. We have plenty of time to do all of the things we'd like. Your child will be grown before you are 40. Plenty of time to please yourself then .

My daughter will be 18 when im 36 which means in a sense i am still growing along side her which is a really nice warm feeling!

I took her swimming today and to see the happiness in her face gave me a real buzz!

However i do still need to take some me time sometimes!

I really know how you feel. We all get restless now and again, but please dont do anything illegal, you would only destroy your life and the lives of those you love. I had my first child at a very young age as well, but sure you wouldn't change that. Sounds like a good holiday would do you the world of good or a better job change. But i do feel for you sometimes we feel life is slipping us by.and were getting nowhere.

You know being a mum is probaly the most important job anyone will do in there lives. Its never adverised at the carreers office, you don't get any qualifications, you have to make it up as you go along.The scarest thing is you get no practice and its in a deep end from day one.

I've asked myself in the past if im happy and I've decieded I'm going to be. I get overwhelmed sometimes how the children hang off your every word and yes its annoying that we are never on our own ( even when where on the loo)But if it wasn't for us hwat kind of adults would they grow up to be?

Im happy to board now as bringing up children is a privlidge not all of us get...Things will get better promise

my life is fulfilled! I eat LARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know what you mean about wanting to do something out of character, I remember feeling the same. By the time I was 24 I had 4 children, my husband and I were running our own business and I felt that I had comlpetely lost ME! I was the mummy, Wife and even the business but never ME.
At pre-school one morning another mummy said how she was feeling...and it was the same as how I was feeling. We decided to do something about it and arranged a girls night out. We asked lots of other mums along but it was a different type of girls night out...We went to a lovely bistro, had fab food, good wine and best of all great company to talk with, laugh with, share highs and lows with. 7 years on and we still have our girls nights about once a month, sometimes only a few of us can make it other times we all come (the last one - last week - there were 13 of us). If money is short we do a bring and share supper, choose whose house to eat at then decide what food we want-indian, chinese,french,etc..Each of us brings a home made dish to suit.(some cheat and bring take-away food or shop bought dishes but thats ok)
Our evenings are really about friendships and food. They are also a great tonic to life.
Each of us invites anyone new if we think they could do with a bit of our tonic so it's also a good way to meet new people.
I hope this is some help.