anyone get any nuggets of advice about what i do about my EX mother in law? Me and ex have been divorced about 4 years now and generally get on ok for the sake of the kids. The split wasnt great cause he was having an affair, and then didnt want to give me money etc. However, things are straight between us and we've both moved on. Main problem is his mother. We've never liked each other but always remained civil until recently when she has been slagging me off to my 8 yr old and when in my house (to collect them) cannot even be bothered to make polite conversation preferring to stand with a sulk on and making monosylabilic sounds. It all came to a head last week cause my son wasnt ready to go when she came over to collect him. She was very rude to me in front of him and i did make a mistake in snapping at him because i was feeling so uncomfortable at her being in my house. Now i have an email from her saying to the effect that im a bad mother and after all the help she gives me i should be grateful. I am of course fuming but i wont dignify the ol bag with a response, but what do i do????? Their dad doesnt want to be involved.
tell the old bag that while she is in your house she will keep her opinions to herself, you don't have to let her into your house after all, (i'd make her wait out in the car). Make sure your son understands what is going on and why she is being nasty, just be honest and don't say one bad thing about her, he'll find out all that for himself. If she sends you an email, politely send one back saying her opinion isn't wanted and you couldn't care less what she thinks. Make sure you save all her emails though.
Just remember that she has no power over you at all.
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Just like the white winged dove, sings a song, Sounds like she's singing... whoo...whoo...whoo
Put a stake through her heart and throw garlic at her, then when she trips roll her down the road through puddles shouting "ding dong the witch is dead"
ooooh, i like both responses. Gut instinct is to give her a tongue lashing but i know that she is only behaving this way to provoke a response (old family trick). Im torn between letting her know exactly what i think or really annoying her by saying nowt so she's left wondering what my next move will be. For now, im gonna let her know she is not welcome at my house.
I sympathise with you here I have a similar delicate situation with my in-laws. We have always been honest with our kids but have never once bad mouthed the in-laws. As the children get older they will make up their own minds. I would politely (however hard that is!) suggest to her that to avoid any further conflict she waits in her car to collect the kids. Make sure they are ready to go as soon as she turns up. And say to her that you are doing your very best not to allow your kids to see the problem between the two of you, but that if she continues with this behaviour she will have to gain access to her grandchildren through their father. Good luck hun
Originally posted by gobraves: anyone get any nuggets of advice about what i do about my EX mother in law? Me and ex have been divorced about 4 years now and generally get on ok for the sake of the kids. The split wasnt great cause he was having an affair, and then didnt want to give me money etc. However, things are straight between us and we've both moved on. Main problem is his mother. We've never liked each other but always remained civil until recently when she has been slagging me off to my 8 yr old and when in my house (to collect them) cannot even be bothered to make polite conversation preferring to stand with a sulk on and making monosylabilic sounds. It all came to a head last week cause my son wasnt ready to go when she came over to collect him. She was very rude to me in front of him and i did make a mistake in snapping at him because i was feeling so uncomfortable at her being in my house. Now i have an email from her saying to the effect that im a bad mother and after all the help she gives me i should be grateful. I am of course fuming but i wont dignify the ol bag with a response, but what do i do????? Their dad doesnt want to be involved.
