Just wondering how people - and those who don't for that matter - who have partners who work away cope?
Mr bambi works away and I must admitt that currently I'm struggling at the moment. For the first time this morning my nearly 3yr old asked "where Daddy was?" and as well as my own stuff, I must admit to feeling gutted for her.
He's home on average 2/3 times a month for a couple of days each time, but I must say it's never enough. And of course there are people with partners in the forces who don't see their partners for months on end, but really that doesn't help me and mine. I find myself moaning to him on the phone that he's not home enough, especially lately, and I don't want to turn into a moaning woman.
My Hubby used to work away Monday to Friday and at first it was awful and not just because we missed him but because I was disciplining during the week and I found it hard for Hubby to do it weekends, not that I didn`t carry on, I just didn`t like him telling them off at all, with him only seeing them for a couple of days at a time, we had quite a few barnies over it but once we sorted it out, we were fine and looked forward to the weekends and he worked away for over a year but once he stopped and was home every night, we had to adjust again
I found I did alot of moaning to Hubby and although its not fair on him because theres nothing he can do, I felt I had a raw deal too, not having him around to help with the children, especially with things like school meetings. I did slowly stop with the minor things that came up and talked to friends instead but I did have Hubby home every weekend, so its not as bad as with you Bambi
It's the evenings that I struggle with. My kid is in bed by 6.30 and so I'm in the house pottering around on my own. It's either tv, the computer, the phone or a book - all of which are great, but not when you just want a bit a company with your love. I've got great friends, but they all have their own lives and there's only so many times you can moan to them about the same things.
I know we've got a lot going for us, beautiful, healthy daughter and love and trust between us, but it's just all very difficult.
I didn`t have to do the evenings on my own Bambi, my children are older, although at times I`d have loved a quiet evening but I can imagine too many would get a bit much
I`m about on and off through the day, if you want someone to natter to or have a moan to someone who understands, you could always email me, I genuinely wouldn`t mind but don`t feel you have to take me up on it, its just a thought
Arrrrrrrrrr shuks SouthernGirl, thanks a lot. Last night I spoke to him on the phone and he's coming home today and will stay until Friday, and then come home again next Thurs for Christmas, so at the moment things aren't looking too bad. Infact as I type I'm beaming from ear to ear at the prospect!
I've seen both sides of this. I've been the person who worked away, and had relationships with others who did. My b/f and I live in separate towns.
I find it interesting when people ask how I "cope". It's a good choice for me - not something I have to "cope with" or "battle against".
I make the most of the time on my own. I keep close contact and make sure my partner always knows he can have confidence in me, that I am still there for him.
I got quite used to my Hubby being away Vbland but I do like my own company anyway, although I have children around me, so I`m not completely alone. I found it as hard to adapt to him not working away, as I did him working away but nowadays, you have to go where the work is, so it wasn`t really a choice we had
