Are you a big softie? Do you find it difficult to discipline your children? Or are you a shouter? Sick of hearing your own voice and fed-up with ranting at the kids? Why not see if Supernanny Jo Frost can give you any useful tips on getting your own way in your house and disciplining effectively. We’re going to interview Jo Frost during this series and if you’d like to ask her anything about how to discipline your children, here is your chance. We’ll pick some of the best questions and we’ll post her answers up on the website. Just post your questions or dilemmas on this forum.
I would like to ask supernanny about how to deal with a violent toddler. In her book she does say that the naughty step technique doesn't really work until the child is about 2 1/2 so what do you do until then? My 21 month old daughter is constantly smacking, pulling hair, kicking etc. It's bad enough when she does it to me, but when she starts on other children I want the ground to swallow me up! The slightest provocation sets her off, and occasionally she seems to do it for no reason at all! Please help!
Originally posted by blondee: I would like to ask supernanny about how to deal with a violent toddler. In her book she does say that the naughty step technique doesn't really work until the child is about 2 1/2 so what do you do until then? My 21 month old daughter is constantly smacking, pulling hair, kicking etc. It's bad enough when she does it to me, but when she starts on other children I want the ground to swallow me up! The slightest provocation sets her off, and occasionally she seems to do it for no reason at all! Please help!
take her away from the situation, put her in her room, end the outing. Keep a distance and come closer to the child when she is behaving properly, I had that with my son, I take him home if he starts like that and put him in his room if he does it at home, or if he pulls my hair I pull his back, because he has no way of knowing it hurts unless someone does it to him. He isnt anywhere near as bad as he used to be. Its like telling a child not to touch something because it is hot, how does a child know what hot is unless they feel hot.
My sister in Law needs help urgently, my 9 year old nephew is out of control, they have just came back from there holiday, and they nearly got thrown out of the hotel thats how badly behaved he is, her partner is ready to leave , he will not take a telling, please give me some helpful suggestions, i hate seeing her so upset
My son is 13 months old and is just starting to show the first signs of tantrums and 'trying his luck'. At the moment when he does something wrong we simply say no, explain why, and then distract him with something else. When should we be implementing more discipline (at what age)? When will he understand why certain behaviour is not allowed? What sort of discipline is appropriate for the under 2s?
I have three children 9,6 & 4. The two older ones have ADHD & have always been difficult to handle but I have learnt different coping mechanisms for them. My 4yo, who has justed started reception is bouncing off their bad behaviour, gets very hyperactive & naughty but because she is what is classed as normal & is very different to them in a lot of ways I find that the same methods of discipline do not work. Don't get me wrong she is a lovely little girl but I don't want her to feel that she is the same as the other two. I have stopped giving her a vitamin c tablet in the morning because she thinks that she is the same as D & J who take medication in the morning but this is becoming more & more difficult. I think it is I & my husband just don't know how to treat a 'normal' child.
Was wondering if jo could please give me some advice regarding my 11 month old son he has started having really bad tantrums and butting floors and walls and biting and lashing out at anybody around him. I have tried placing him somewhere safe like the cot or playpen but he can get out of these and i'm really worried he's going to hurt himself
Please help me !!! I'm a 28 year old mother and I have 2 boys aged 9years and 26 months. My 9 year old has ADHD but his behaviour is managable whilst the other has me pulling my hair out at times. He was a good baby although underweight for his age. At the age of 1 this all changed, he started induced vomiting when ever he didn't get his own way. He stopped having his nap during the daytime and now this behaviour has become progressivly worse. He now vomits between 2-5 times a day when he can't get his own way often threatening his brother by hanging over him and then vomiting. He bites, nips, pushes and spits and won't listen to anything anyone says. All my friends and family tell me they havn't met a child like him regarding his vomiting. I have taken him to the doctors where they preformed tests and there is no medical reason for the vomiting. As I previously said he his under weight but my health visitor says there is no reason to worry he is is proportion. He is a very loving child who love a cuddle when the mood takes him. I give him no attention when he vomits, I tell him what he has done is wrong then I just change his clothes and clean him up avoiding eye contact. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG? IS THIS NORMAL BEHAVIOUR?
I am having constant bedtime battles with my nine year old and 6 year old. This has not always been a problem but over the last couple of years it has got progressively worse and I am now at the end of my teather. I put the younger one upto bed at 7.30 and read him a story and the older one goes 15-30 mins later and is allowed to read for a short while. They go upstairs no problem but then they are in and out of each others rooms messing about. Up and down the stairs sometimes every half hour. I do not get any peace as I am up and down the stairs getting them back to their rooms. I have bribed, blackmailed, taken things away but nothing seems to work. Please can anyone help I will try any suggestions.
I would like to ask Supernanny, my son is 8 yrs old just being refured for havin adhd. I no alot of his behaviuor problem are down to myself not bein stirict with him whenhe was younger. Thing have changed now, he eats well, but his behaviour is gettin worse he's geting older n very stong. My problem is during the week my son is with myself adn then most weekends at his fathers.
His father live at home, and my son seem to get away with most andhates me on return LOL Forbeing so strict. His father blames me for our sons behavuior and we row because of it(bad i know!)
How can you make the absent parent see sence? And what your child is really like!?
Originally posted by Nixty: I am having constant bedtime battles with my nine year old and 6 year old. This has not always been a problem but over the last couple of years it has got progressively worse and I am now at the end of my teather. I put the younger one upto bed at 7.30 and read him a story and the older one goes 15-30 mins later and is allowed to read for a short while. They go upstairs no problem but then they are in and out of each others rooms messing about. Up and down the stairs sometimes every half hour. I do not get any peace as I am up and down the stairs getting them back to their rooms. I have bribed, blackmailed, taken things away but nothing seems to work. Please can anyone help I will try any suggestions.
You dont say how old your other child is. I would put the youngest one to bed first with a story and get them settled and asleep. Then put the older one to bed again with a story. Maybe make it clear that its not fair to wake up their younger brother/sister.
Originally posted by Nixty: I am having constant bedtime battles with my nine year old and 6 year old. This has not always been a problem but over the last couple of years it has got progressively worse and I am now at the end of my teather. I put the younger one upto bed at 7.30 and read him a story and the older one goes 15-30 mins later and is allowed to read for a short while. They go upstairs no problem but then they are in and out of each others rooms messing about. Up and down the stairs sometimes every half hour. I do not get any peace as I am up and down the stairs getting them back to their rooms. I have bribed, blackmailed, taken things away but nothing seems to work. Please can anyone help I will try any suggestions.
I do apologise you do say how old they are. I would put a six year old to bed at 7 to half 7 and a nine year old to bed at half 8. I dont no if anyone thinks any different.
This is my first time on the site so I hope I'm posting this right! Any advice on how to stay calm?? I am starting to shout and tap - rather than smack. My son is nearly 2 and though he is generally a good little boy he can be a real tinker at times...The naughty corner works well for us and has for a few months now but at times my impatience/frustration gets the better of me. It is normally if/when he kicks me when I am changing his nappy or if/when he gets to rough with his 9 month old sister...I know shouting/tapping is wrong and I feel so guilty afterwards..any advice offered would be fab.
My 3.5yr old who has been potty trained since 2yrs is now wetting herself a couple of times a day. She now has a new baby sister and I am unsure if this is affecting her behaviour. Should I discipline her or what should I do?
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Originally posted by angie22: My 3.5yr old who has been potty trained since 2yrs is now wetting herself a couple of times a day. She now has a new baby sister and I am unsure if this is affecting her behaviour. Should I discipline her or what should I do?
Ihave a 3 yr old boy and when i had his little sister 18mths ago he was still in nappies only this last 8mths has he finaly picked up the potty training lark, as i used to reward every day he went to the toilet then i progressed to rewarding him with shiny stickers that he'd put on a chart i had made every day he was dry or didnt wet or dirty himself it worked a treat. you could use any kind of reward u want.
I have a 3yr old boy who has just started nursery, he loves it even crys when he has to leave, but today only his second day his teacher told me that he was not doing as he was told kept saying no and when it was story time he would hit and distract the other children, i was so furious with him i sent him to his bed when we got home. what can i do to improve his behaviour he is very cheeky to his dad and myself?
I have a 3yr old boy who has just started nursery, he loves it even crys when he has to leave, but today only his second day his teacher told me that he was not doing as he was told kept saying no and when it was story time he would hit and distract the other children, i was so furious with him i sent him to his bed when we got home. what can i do to improve his behaviour he is very cheeky to his dad and myself?
i was wondering if jo could give me any advice on my 4 and a half year old daughter. She can be realy rude to her grandad and also to my boyfriend of 5 months. The way she is with my boyfriend is causing a real srain on our relationship as no matter what i say to her and ask her why she does it she doesnt stop and it has got to a point where i dont know what else to do. He is realy good with her and treats her as if she was one of his own but she doesnt seem to be nice to him at all unless we bribe her. And if she cant get her own way all hell breaks lose and it always ends in one big arguement between us all.
I would love to know what Jo thinks of Alfie Kohn's criticism of her show and parenting techniques? Do you not feel you are exploiting distressed children who need understanding and empathy rather than dominating in front of a camera crew? Do you not have any concerns about when they go to school and their peers discover they were supernannied?
I personally was grateful when Kohn published the article, putting my concerns far more eloquently than I can due to my emotions getting in the way. I once had a "discussion" with Jo a long time ago when I rang and asked her if she was aware of the consequences of controlled crying as she was advocating it in a sunday magazine just before her very first series aired. In fact the article was along the lines of being pleased with parents who were able to enjoy a glass of wine while the baby cried it out upstairs. Hmmm.
