My partner and I have a two year old which has been in a bed now for a couple of months now and he is happy with being in bed, he is not afraid in any way. We read him a story and my partner or I will stay with him and give him a cuddle to make sure he is settled. When he is settled we will leave and then this is where the fun begins.... In and out of bed for up to an hour most nights. We listen for him to get out of bed then go in, do the talking on the 1st time, sterner on the 2nd and say nothing on the 3rd. When we go in he stops and turns round and runs back to his bed and flops on it. we would of thought that we would of seen an improvement by now but nothing.
PLEASE HAS ANYONE GOT ANY FURTHER IDEAS OR JUST RECOMMEND TO BARE WITH IT.
hi you have my sympathy it must be hard on you and your partner try talking to him and set up a reard chart. every time he stays in his bed and doesnt play up reward him with a treat or stickers see if that works if not then just keep putting him back in bed with out talking or paying attention to him hope this helps
you never no kids often perk up wen treats are involved. make a big thing about it like how big boys stay in there beds all nite although your kid is oonly a youngen eventually it will stick hope this helps
i tried all of the above and in the end i put a stair gate over my 2 yr olds door way and left him to it!! then atleast u know he is safe and you don't have to keep going in and out to your son giving him the one thing he is after... ATTENTION!
I had to do the stair gate on the door with on of mine too. Don't talk to him when you put him back to bed, thats what he wants. Is he just not tired? My youngest is in bed by 7.30 but used to be in and out of bed for ages then I found out he was swapping books to look at in his bed. We now give him a few books and he knows he is to stay in bed and look at them till he wants to sleep. No more problems. Good luck
My 18 month old boy is just not having any of it when it comes to bedtimes!!! He will kick and scream constantly if left in his room. I have tried sitting with him and reassuring him and reading him a book but he just wont play the game!!!! I have even sat on his floor for 2 hours and waited for him to fall asleep and then crept out of the room but as soon as he stirs and realises he is on his own the fun starts all over again!!!! It can go on all night like this and has done on several occassions!!! I dont want to shut the door on him as i dont think this will help at all but maybe i should put up a stairgate?? I know he wont like it and will scream his head off but how long is long enogh to leave him crying? Any help will be gratefully recieved....................
Children have different ways of crying and you will usually know if your child is really needing you. My eldest (the one we needed the stair gate for), would often fall asleep with his arms and legs poking through the gate and we would gently put him back to bed. He soon learned that, after a while of shouting, it was preferable to get into bed again rather than sleep in the gate. Be firm... Good luck
Ok, so i tried the stairgate on the bedroom door and the first night he screamed from 7:30pm until midnight and then resorted to running at the gate from the other side of the room and trying to knock it down!!! This carried on for an hour and then he went back to screaming for another hour!!! Eventually he gave up with the screaming but refused to get in to bed and just sat by the gate whimpering and neither of us got a wink of sleep all night!! This resulted in him sleeping all of the next morning as he was so tired!! I almost called it quits there but decided that it was probably best to carry on, except last night we had exactly the same thing!! Tonight i have given up and have let him fall asleep on the sofa. I know this has made the last 2 nights pointless but i really need to sleep myself and it cant be good for him to get in such a state. Please has anyone got any idea of what i can do?????????????
Originally posted by tails23: Ok, so i tried the stairgate on the bedroom door and the first night he screamed from 7:30pm until midnight and then resorted to running at the gate from the other side of the room and trying to knock it down!!! This carried on for an hour and then he went back to screaming for another hour!!! Eventually he gave up with the screaming but refused to get in to bed and just sat by the gate whimpering and neither of us got a wink of sleep all night!! This resulted in him sleeping all of the next morning as he was so tired!! I almost called it quits there but decided that it was probably best to carry on, except last night we had exactly the same thing!! Tonight i have given up and have let him fall asleep on the sofa. I know this has made the last 2 nights pointless but i really need to sleep myself and it cant be good for him to get in such a state. Please has anyone got any idea of what i can do?????????????
he got exactly what he wanted! you have to perservere and stick with your plan,
good luck
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My partner and I tried to the stairgate and it worked. Just wanted to say thanks for all your suggestions it is lovely to get an eveving back so me and my partner can have some time together. thanks again everyone
Dear Tails23 As soon as you altered your behavor, i.e. making a stand for yourself and using the stairgate, your child's behavor escalated b/c he will try anything to 'win the battle'. You gave-in b/c it's easier (for the short term only) and he won! He is not going to make winning easy for you. He knows how to play you and what buttons to press to get what he wants. Out-smart him! Be strong! You know him, you know how he operates - he escalates to get what he wants. To win the battle you need to let him escalate, let him pull out every trick in the book and IGNORE him! Do this for as long as it takes! If he screams for a week so be it... you will end up with a life time of restful nights!!!! Please, be firm, be strong, make a stand for yourself and don't give in to him! Your son will respect you for it!
