what would you do? my son is two injune and me and his dad have been split up since march last year as he is in the army and 3 days after i had my son he was posted out to iraq for 3 and half months when he came back i'd been on my own and found it hard to accept him back in my life just like that gradully we started falling apart and as i lived at home it wasn't easy, then the day came he'd met someone who is 16, he really likes her?? what do i do?? the family and himself have got very violent towards me and my family and have had to seek help. but christmas he was meeting me telling he still loved me!! any help would be much appreciated

Hi, It sounds that he is on the rebound. Someone who is 16 is not going to settle down with him. It must have been tough him going out to Iraq. He prob still loves you as you can't just switch that off. I would try again really hard just for the child. You must have loved and wanted to be with him to have a child. I don't understand why his family have got violent towards you???? do you let him see your son? My thoughts are with you !!!

please dont feel you need to go back because of your son.i left my ex partner after he hit me i had a daughter but she wasnt his anyway i never looked back no matter how much he begged i stayed strong even though i really did love him.turns out he was an alcoholic who hit women before.

i think you should be strong if your happy as you are then thats good.it seems wierd that he has a 16 year old gf but as red said its probably a rebound job.

if he is a good dad keep letting him see your son.but i really wouldnt go back if i were in your position the violence is a worry especially with his family doing it too.

whatever you decide i hope you'll end up happy,you and your son.

If he has been violent towards you more than once I would stay away.

Once can be forgiven more to me can't, sorry but you read too many stories of people who end up stuck in violent relationsips, the longer you stay the harder it is to leave, you seem to end up believing you are worthless - your not protect yourself and your child stay away.

Give the kids to their father; problem solved. The fathers' Rights' movement is *absolutely full* of men who are both the victims of domestic violence at the hands of their Xs and who have been forced out of their children's lives violently.

Well that's not the case here HappyGoLuky, this time it's a lady who is the victim. Bexxa has given the best advice here and i hope it's all worked out for you Kim21

*hides under pillow*

stay away from violence. if they have done it once they will do it again and it will get worse.get out and stay out dont teach your children that they have to put up with abuse . life does come with choices