Are there any Foster Parents here? or am i the only one? I and hubby have been foster carers for 12yrs or so now, we have three children in placemnt at the moment, we are long term foster carers although we do take in short term emergency placements too.
Hi Makeo, where are you from? do you have kids? Well, some kids have bad historys, some children only need care while a parent or parents have a break or are recuperating from illness or get settled in a new home for whatever reason. but yes a lot of children come from bad siutations, neglect, or one of many forms of abuse, even tiny little babes in arms god bless em, the older children are a bit of a challenge as they usually dont trust other adults and it can take a long time before they will trust again and they will test you to the limits sometimes to see just how much it would take before you turf them out or turn on them as thats what they have been used to, but if you have what it takes (patience and empathy) then a lot of kids come through it and learn life really can be worth living and that not all grown ups treat them the way they have been treated. then there are also children who may have different types of dissorders like ADHD, ODD, Dyspraxia, Autism and that affects there behaviour a lot of the time and they need carers who a specially trained to look after them in the right way. and NO i do not agree with hitting kids as disapline, hitting(abuse) and disapline do not go together they are not the same thing, hitting will never stop bad behaviour it can actually result in it, there are always alternatives, and if a child is praised enough they wil 'want' to behave right because it gets them the right sort of attention.... oh i could go on forever lol but i best end here.
Oh your right there, most kids will challenge or try to see just how far they can push mum or dad and another thing they do is try to play mum off against dad or vice versa, they are clever little so and so's lol, as for the fostering side of it when a parent is in hospital or whatever sometimes there isnt another parent or some people simply dont have family members who will help out, sad isnt it.
hi, i'm interested in foster care but I am not sure if I can do it. I've just registered my name with the local care commission last Friday. I only have a 4 year old son and not sure if he can cope with me having to divide my attention.
i'd like to hear your views though, i've read alot about it but would certainly love to hear it from your side.
[QUOTE]Originally posted by fuzzy: the older children are a bit of a challenge as they usually dont trust other adults and it can take a long time before they will trust again and they will test you to the limits sometimes to see just how much it would take before you turf them out or turn on them as thats what they have been used to[QUOTE]
im 16 and im in foster care and i would like to point out that although i dont get along with my parents at all it doesnt mean im going to treat every adult i meet the same way as whats happened with my parents
in fact its the complete opposite...im really grateful i have someone treating me with respect so i get along with my carer really well and the whole idea of going into foster care is to get away from my old home life so im not really going to bring it back again into my new home by doing that
