Just looking for advice on a family problem I have with my brother.
I live at home with my mum and my brother (I'm 22 hes 35).
I work (not the greatest of jobs but it pays the bills n helps me contribute towards the running of the house. My mums retired and lives on pensions.
anyways my brother quit his job the middle of last year and not bothered about getting a new one, he get letter and calls telling him the money he owes on credit cards loans n bills rolling in. he doesnt care tho. hes not paying his share of the household bills thats left to me and my mum, he eats my food etc... its just getting me really down now. i've tried speaking to my mum about the problem but she just shrugs n says there is nothing more she can do. i know if i move out mum wont have my money coming in and will have to sell up and downsize.

does anyone have any suggestions other than shooting the lazy git?

cheers

We'll I'd say deal with the bit that relates to you - the living costs that you are paying for him and so on. You need to get him to contribute to bills etc. There are practical ways - lock up your food, for example.

I believe that your mother has to fight her own battle in the event you move out. Don't let it put you off moving out, for example.

Whatever, he can't hide for his troubles forever. The unpaid bills etc will catch up with him. He sounds like he's got problems - fallen off the job ladder and no impetus to/success in getting back on, 35 and no property and single, in debt etc. He may well be frightened and possibly depressed. But again, that's for him to sort out. He's an adult.

Hi Is your Brother on benefits? if hes not been working for quite some time, I`m guessing he is, in which case he has money coming in to help contribute towards his keep.

I had a friend in a similar situation and in the end because her Mum wasn`t doing anything to push her Brother into getting work but actually making it easy for him, while she paid half of all the bills with her Mum, she had a chat with her Mum and said how unfair she felt it was, working all week to pay for her Brother to doss around, so she divided everything in three, she paid her third and said if her Mum was alright with her Brother dossing then she could pay for him, needless to say, her Mum couldn`t afford to do that, so it did encourage her, to get her Son to find work. If your Brother is looking for work then thats a different matter but I did see how it worked for my friend, she was getting very bitter but thankfully she could chat to her Mum without it ending in a row.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you all