I can't believe what I was watching last night, who on earth is Claire Verity. Has she just been dropped down to earth from another planet. I have never witnessed such an unfeeling, uncaring, crazed (yes crazy...she had that look) person, who claims that they are an "Expect" when it comes to raising your child. I would have put her out in the garden!!! I have a 13 year old daughter and from the second she was born we have cuddled and held her and fed her pretty much when she wanted to be fed, cuddled and held and she is a well balanced (sometimes aukward...but perfectly normal) teenager. We were both screaming at the television. I think that Claire Verity is from STEPFORD.....totally unbelievable....
i have twin boys aged 15 weeks, as a first time mum, i found watching claires approach harsh and distressing both for mum and baby. As i battle with my own need to comfort my babies but also attempt to sleep train . however i think in relation to the bad comments being made against her and her practices it has to be recognised this was a tv programme, in which there was a direct aim to have conflicting ideas. where there would be positive and negatives to investigate. Although her approach could be deemed cruel and insensitive, this was what those parents in question chose to follow, not to mention the thousands of elder generations raised under these strict routines. do we or do we not look to our parents and grandparents for advise when raising our own children?
i think people should remember the aim of the show was to view different approaches and as parents we can take different aspects of these parenting styles and adapt to fit our own needs and musts.practices of one may not suit us but an alternitive might. i have found intertwining all three approaches is the most healthy way to bond with your children to the maximum yet introduction of consistancy and routine is a good bonus and ideal in maintainig sanity and structure in the home ( or life). Each approach in the show has both weakness' and valuable advice that should not be forgot. it is hard the more help available the better1
They did not freely choose those methods though. They were clearly and visibly bullied by CV and the film crew and production team to stick with her methods even though they were crying, unhappy, scared and miserable. It is NOT a case of the 'the more help the better' if that help involves bullying parents and abusing babies.
I do NOT believe the majority of mothers in the past refused to touch or look at their newborns. That is nonsense. though many of the adults who were brought up with similarly harsh and abusive regimes bear the scars to this day.
