Is anyone in the same situation in that they've already been blessed with a boy and a girl and are trying to decide whether to have a third baby?
I thought I'd weighed it all up last year but since my sister fell pregnant by accident with her third it's been preying on my mind constantly as I always wanted 3. Last year wasn't the right time as my little girl had very bad ezcema, we'd just moved etc. and I kind of forgot about it.
Now as I'm a born worrier, I'm totally undecided. Am I wrong to push it when I already have one of each that are perfect? Is it just because my sister is having one more than me? Will I totally regret throwing our lives into baby turmoil again with the sleep, teething etc.?
Has anyone else been really undecided about this? I understand why people with say 2 girls try again in the hope of a boy etc. but I just can't forget all the cons and I'm jealous of my sister who had the decision made for her!!
Any stories on how you decided either way whether to extend your brood?

Hiya, I also have a boy (2) and a girl (6mnts) and I don't want a third, all I tell myself is on a day out as a family, there is one set of hands for each child.

I came from a big family or two btothers and a sister, me and my sister we the third and forth children of the family, and both unexpected little blessings so we are told. However, as there is a max of 22 months at the most between all four of us, my Mum said it was like hell on earthj for about nine years while she was bringing us up, she coped well as it was a case of having to, but they never went anywhere alone, or went out as a couple until my sister was about 10 and old enough to be left in the care of my eldest brother.

I think it is probably ver hard to make the decision.

How old are both of yours? I am doing all the nappies and teething together and I am finding it moderatly easy, there age always good and bad days though. But when I am done with these two at the baby stage, I am done. But Me and my partner decided that before we were even pregnant with my first. Two was always the limit, as we decided that with two children we could provide them with everything they needed. I know a third child would mean there would have to be a lot of compromise within the family unit.

My brother and sister in law are currently expecting there second and day now, but I am not at all broody, and being sensible, even if I were to get like it in the future I will remind myself of all the horrible things like teething slepless nights, followed by insomnia because of stress, teething, ilness etc.

But I will look back at all their pics and videos with fodness, and hope they don't grow up TOO fast.

Hi, thanks for your reply. Mine are almost 2yrs and 4yrs. To be honest we don't go out alone anyway. In fact I go out by myself once/twice a year at the most on special family occasions!

I too have thought of the family days out with hands for each one! But then mine do like prams so it wouldn't be too bad.
Also with my daughter's (nearly 2) eczema, the sleeping pattern with that was way worse than they were as babies. I was up every couple of hours for 20 months. As it turns out that is triggered by a plug-in air freshener and is completely clear with the help of aloe vera. So I don't have that to think about anymore. So, in a way I'm still in the bad nights/lack of sleep routine as she still wakes a couple of times for reassurance. It wouldn't be as much as a shock.
I've been really stretching my pros and cons! Even like I have beautiful children, what if it's not as good looking and there's jealously! Crazy I know! That's one of my pro's too though. We do have very cute babies!

But then there's the compromise you mention. and the expense of say christmasses etc. It does make sense to provide more for these two. Bu then on the other hand my little boy (nearly 4) keeps saying he wants lots of brothers and sisters - he ADORES his little sister and has offered to carry put it in his tummy (bless!) and move up in his bed and teach it football. All this because he was told his auntie was having one!
One day I'm definite I'm sticking with my lovely two. The next I'm thinking there's room for a little addition to complete the family.
bleeding decisions, decisions!!

ps. I'm the third of four - all born within a five year period!
My mum says it was largely fine and she's championing for me to have another!

It look like you already have your mind set, as he seem to be completely all for having another baby, as the only few bad things that I could think of, you said they were not that bad. So what's to stop you.

And I can totally sympathise on the eczema front. My son has it terrible. It's under control at the moment. He was born in Feb, but by Aug and 6 months old he was really uncomfortable with it, and we all know the summer months are the worst.

Maybe just give having a baby a little more thought, but to me there doesn't seem to be much stopping you.