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Originally posted by uwrhino:
((I console myself with the knowledge that for every nasty comment, someone else praises me.))

Have any of you ever heard anyone praise her?? The women is deluded.

I wouldn't praise her as such because I don't agree with her methods and know they wouldn't work for me but for the sake of balancing this argument out a bit, I will defend her (up to a point). I think she's wrong but I think she's tapping into a market. Whether you agree with her or not, she's reacting to the demand from modern-day working mums for a quick-fix solution to sleepless nights. Quite frankly, I am more disturbed by the parents out there who make the commitment to have a baby and then don't want to have the 'hassle' of looking after it properly. CV wouldn't be as successful as she is if there weren't parents out there demanding her services. And, again, whether you agree with her or not, her methods do achieve their desired goal (ie baby sleeping through the night). Whether or not her methods have a detrimental affect on the baby is obviously a big question. I think that particularly the lack of physical and eye contact in the early weeks is terrible and can't be doing much for the baby's emotional development. However, rather than attacking CV, shouldn't we be looking at the bigger picture of the direction that our society is going in and why there is a need for people like CV at all?

Yes I agree with you. I always thought that Clare was probably a bit overboard anyway as channel 4 want controversy for entertainment. I think it is the parents who follow this that really need looking at. I mean what is the point in having a child if you don't want your life to alter in anyway.

Of course she's defending herself, look at the money she makes! Is she ever going to admit she's wrong when she earns thousands of pounds for her awful services? Lets just hope that C4 have actually done good by showing what she advocates, seriously would anyone touch her with a bargepole after the series?

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Originally posted by moogyboobles:

The perfect sling for me depends on the age, now my son is 18 months we mainly use the ring sling or mei tai on my back (we have a babyhawk and connecta).

Very interesting... I'm in need of sling advice too! My son is 12 months and very heavy - he must be about 2 stone now. Would you still recommend a ring sling? Does it not pull too much on your shoulder?

We have a babyhawk too but I'm not getting on with it. The straps dig into my skin and I find it really uncomfortable. I can't cross the straps at the front as it does funny things to my boobs and the backpack carry slips down really low after a little while. Such a shame as it is the most beautiful sling I've ever seen!

I've been considering going for an Ergo or MacPac but might try a ring sling if it would work as I like having him on my hip. I'm currently using my old Kari-me but it's too stretchy for a baby his weight and also slips down too low.

Any thoughts?

scottish bird you are absolutley right about the last point you make. i have a big question mark over a system that actually pushes women back to the work place to the detriment of the family. having said that i gave up an extremyly lucartive job in the City to stay at home with my son and he has only now at age 3.4 started kindergarten (only a few mornings a week).

i am not fond of any system that says you have to stick a 6 month old into a nursery 12 hours a day so you can go back to work. for me the financial gain was not worth my son's health nor my own psychological well being.

it is a rubbish system that forces us back to work. HOWEVER as parents we still have CHOICE. I have lived in poverty compared to the life style i used to have before my son was born, but i am now setting up my own business so that i can work from home.

put simply, no amount of money in the world would have torn me away from my son and my ability to bf on cue. So i am not totally convinced by people's reasoning re. having to go back to work. the choice is there not to work at all or at least NOT FULL-TIME at 6 months until you feel your baby is ready to be left with other people. if you have to do it, i rate grandparents and other close relatives over nursery staff and childminders.

there are numerous studies on the physical and psychological health of babies/toddlers left in care (nurseries and other types of day care) that indicate these children have lower social skills as well as other difficulties re. bonding with their parents, etc. i read one US study which suggetsed that a child under 4 should not have spent more than 2 years in care. well, that means not putting a child into any sort of care before the age of 2 (my personal view having read other psychological studies is that children under 3 do not benefit from any form of day care). i just don't think enough parents are aware of these studies.