Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
Hi Im a teen n i know how it feels lke to be lke youre son, if you do not give him fredom or to much of it this could be a common problem. The company of his friends n school are also two big problems. xx
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Originally posted by GinnyMc: Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
my son, now 13 but huge, was/is like this. He has been having counselling for a couple of months and a lot of help from the local Child and Adolescent Mental Health Unit. It had been advised that we get a punch bag for him to vent his frustrations on but I didn't like that idea. Instead we bought him a drum kit and put him on the list for lessons. He has now started lessons at school and has a natural aptitude for rhythm so he vents himself in huge loud drum riffs (not before 9.30 am and not after 7.30pm)
Originally posted by GinnyMc: Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
Let his father take him outside and thrash him so hard that he wont even dare look at you the wrong way.
i am 14. and i think that if i was behaving like this the biggest thing thing that would make me calm down was that my mum was dissappointed in me- not angry but dissappointed. that gives you the biggest sinking feeling ever
Hi My son is 12 and he is the same when he nice he lovley but as soon as i deny him somthing or pull him up on bad behaviour he flips, all my doors are full of holes, my paintwork has all bathroom products sprayed up walls in temper, broken ornaments i thought he grew out of these tantrum years ago they back with a vengance and now he is bigger than me Scary!! I feel he is unhappy at moment but he wont tell me why he says he dosnt know y he loses it. A good book 2 read is called Raising boys by steve biddaph(guessed surname) I feel 4 u xx
im 14 n a am xactly da same 1 min im all appy da nxt a jus flip owt at da littlest fings such as not havein clothes i wont 2 wear because there in the wash or not havein food i wont i end up kicking punching my mum it makes me worse wen she dont fite bak itz wen u got loads of stuff kept bottled up inside it makes it worse you aint loud 2 take it owt on people at school so you do it at ome e we wunt dare shout swear at school infront of teachers wud we?? wen i keep stuff inside n ave no1 2 talk 2 a ifa take it all owt on ma mum not ma dad coz e wud hit me or self-harm its just r age we will get ova it fingers crossed xx becksta xx
Originally posted by bexi64: im 14 n a am xactly da same 1 min im all appy da nxt a jus flip owt at da littlest fings such as not havein clothes i wont 2 wear because there in the wash or not havein food i wont i end up kicking punching my mum it makes me worse wen she dont fite bak itz wen u got loads of stuff kept bottled up inside it makes it worse you aint loud 2 take it owt on people at school so you do it at ome e we wunt dare shout swear at school infront of teachers wud we?? wen i keep stuff inside n ave no1 2 talk 2 a ifa take it all owt on ma mum not ma dad coz e wud hit me or self-harm its just r age we will get ova it fingers crossed xx becksta xx
you sound spoilt and that you get your on way a fair bit.
You are using your mother as a punching bag. It's not right to hit women....it's not right to hit anyone especially a woman. I hope you find someone to talk to. It's bad for the soul to have feelings bottled up, and its even worse to take anger out on someone.
You are using your mother as a punching bag. It's not right to hit women....it's not right to hit anyone especially a woman. I hope you find someone to talk to. It's bad for the soul to have feelings bottled up, and its even worse to take anger out on someone.
There is a course called Positive Responce training for children/teens that can be violent. Unfortunately GETTING on this course is almost impossible. I actually had a GP tell me there was no such thing..& I pointed out that I had been on the course & his fellow GP had done my referal! Those that work with teens that are violent get an updated form of S.K.I.P (a sort of self defence course),but parents normally have to go it alone. P.R.T is different. Instead of teaching you self defence they teach you what to do in certain situations. My son has various disabilities & can be aggressive. He used to be extremely aggressive & would bite my wrist. He doesn't anymore. P.R.T is a 'last resort' idea,but we were at that point! Unfortunately (due to budget cuts) very few areas have effective behavior therapy teams anymore. It is worth checking out your own area & learning not to take "no" for an answer.
I have a 5 year old boy who has already started kicking his bedroom door, throwing things and having temper tantrums if he can´t have his own way. I am trying to tame him now before he gets to his teens. He is such a loving child, always cuddling me and telling me how much he loves me yet as soon as I say he can´t go out to play (because is dark) he throws a mental.
Makeo - your education is so important for you, you shouldn´t be playing with your parents for money. At the end of the day you are responsible for your actions on whether you pass your exams or not, your parents are there to guide you. When my husband failed his mock english and maths his father stopped him from going to watch his football team for a whole season! Although my husband really hated his father at the time, now he looks back and can understand why he did it and he appreciated it as he passed his O´levels with flying colours. I wish you good luck, you are doing this for you not for anyone else. x
You are using your mother as a punching bag. It's not right to hit women....it's not right to hit anyone especially a woman. I hope you find someone to talk to. It's bad for the soul to have feelings bottled up, and its even worse to take anger out on someone.
n hu xact is a meant 2 tlk 2 ???
Ok first of all for the sake of everyone reading this, learn to spell. We do not talk in text language you know.
Also their right, your mother should be treated with respect.
I'm 16 years and I treat my mother with respect and it's 'children' (your very immature) like you who are giving mature respectful teenagers a bad name.
There is no way any parent should have to go through that stress.
We do have a lot of hormones at high levels when were teens so that can contribite to snapping.
Originally posted by bexi64: im 14 n a am xactly da same 1 min im all appy da nxt a jus flip owt at da littlest fings such as not havein clothes i wont 2 wear because there in the wash or not havein food i wont i end up kicking punching my mum it makes me worse wen she dont fite bak itz wen u got loads of stuff kept bottled up inside it makes it worse you aint loud 2 take it owt on people at school so you do it at ome e we wunt dare shout swear at school infront of teachers wud we?? wen i keep stuff inside n ave no1 2 talk 2 a ifa take it all owt on ma mum not ma dad coz e wud hit me or self-harm its just r age we will get ova it fingers crossed xx becksta xx
you're not my cousin by any chance are you? you sound just like her
Originally posted by GinnyMc: Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
Let his father take him outside and thrash him so hard that he wont even dare look at you the wrong way.
This post encourages Abuse against children and should be reported!
You are using your mother as a punching bag. It's not right to hit women....it's not right to hit anyone especially a woman. I hope you find someone to talk to. It's bad for the soul to have feelings bottled up, and its even worse to take anger out on someone.
n hu xact is a meant 2 tlk 2 ???
Ok first of all for the sake of everyone reading this, learn to spell. We do not talk in text language you know.
Also their right, your mother should be treated with respect.
I'm 16 years and I treat my mother with respect and it's 'children' (your very immature) like you who are giving mature respectful teenagers a bad name.
There is no way any parent should have to go through that stress.
We do have a lot of hormones at high levels when were teens so that can contribite to snapping.
Originally posted by makeo: im 14 and if i do something good say straight a's on my report i get £1 and feel hard done by . whatever you do will make him feel better than i do . i struggle to work harder sometimes to see if there is a £2 . and sometimes work less to see if there is a difference . but £1 standard and i'm obviously the bad child for being quite . if i opened my mouth to speak to them i know in thirty mintues in i'll end up wanting to act like your child and ask what i did wrong .
Well, if you only get paid when you do well at school, you must be pretty broke, Makeo! You spell and write like a child with ;learning difficulties and from a non-english speaking background! In fact, I have met MANY children from Bengali, Gujarati, Xosa and Bantu-speaking backgrounds who wrote WAY better than you in year 6 of Junior school!
I reckon your parents are way too indulgent. In their place, I'd put you to work in a factory as soon as it is legal to do so; educating you is a waste of money!
Originally posted by bexi64: im 14 n a am xactly da same 1 min im all appy da nxt a jus flip owt at da littlest fings such as not havein clothes i wont 2 wear because there in the wash or not havein food i wont i end up kicking punching my mum it makes me worse wen she dont fite bak itz wen u got loads of stuff kept bottled up inside it makes it worse you aint loud 2 take it owt on people at school so you do it at ome e we wunt dare shout swear at school infront of teachers wud we?? wen i keep stuff inside n ave no1 2 talk 2 a ifa take it all owt on ma mum not ma dad coz e wud hit me or self-harm its just r age we will get ova it fingers crossed xx becksta xx
Originally posted by GinnyMc: Hi, we have a 14 year old who loses his temper at the drop of a hat. Once he has lost it, he goes completely mad - shouts swear, breaks things, says the most awful things. The rest of us, now live in fear of the next tantrum. I have three other kids, who are much more even tempered. Does anyone have any experience of anger management for teens?
I don't know if this helps, but I had a friend whose son was 6'4" at 13! He had to have injections to stop him growing. His mother dealt with him by punishing with chores. Every temper tantrum was another chore and he could not leave the house until it was done. The worst he was, the cleaner her house got! Eventually he learned that she would not relent, after he had been grounded foir three months, owing to the backlog of chores he'd built-up.
He's marrd now and has a little boy, is a lovely dada nad an attentive husband... and his adores his strict, Jamaican mum!
Originally posted by biggalo: i am 14. and i think that if i was behaving like this the biggest thing thing that would make me calm down was that my mum was dissappointed in me- not angry but dissappointed. that gives you the biggest sinking feeling ever
Biggalo... Pleb is aiming a bt high for now, you'll just have to make do with being a CHAV!
Originally posted by bexi64: im 14 n a am xactly da same 1 min im all appy da nxt a jus flip owt at da littlest fings such as not havein clothes i wont 2 wear because there in the wash or not havein food i wont i end up kicking punching my mum it makes me worse wen she dont fite bak itz wen u got loads of stuff kept bottled up inside it makes it worse you aint loud 2 take it owt on people at school so you do it at ome e we wunt dare shout swear at school infront of teachers wud we?? wen i keep stuff inside n ave no1 2 talk 2 a ifa take it all owt on ma mum not ma dad coz e wud hit me or self-harm its just r age we will get ova it fingers crossed xx becksta xx
actually anyone here talking abuse back at you makes them worse than any behaviour you are doing. You have a lot of aggression, anger, and high feelings built up in you, first it would be good to get a punch bag or something to hit instead of someone, one day that person may never get up and then your troubles will start.
You probably feel bad after you have spent your temper on your mam, the more she gives in to you though the worse you will become.Its a visious circle.
Talk to your mam about how you feel,talk to someone on the internet(self help group) to help you if you cant talk to anyone. Write down your frustations, or anything that makes you feel bad, now and in your past. it really does help release the load. If you want to talk anymore i can help as i council people. try giving your ma a hug once , she will be ever so suprised, you would hate it and regret it for the rest of your life if anything happened to her or she was taken away from you.
Everyone is in control of their own lives, make it positive , you will get a lot more out of life if you do..., before your life takes any unexpected downs. xxxxxxxxxxxxx
