Hi there,
I have a 3 1/2 year old son who screams very loudly when being told off or when asked not to do something that he shouldn't be doing. I can punish him whilst at home by placing him on the naught step after giving him warning which works but I don't know how to stop it if we are out somewhere such as shopping. Apart from that he is usually quite well behaved. He does suffer from a speach delay and has limited speach so I don't know if this might be connected to the screaming. Any suggestions?

hi there ,you can just find a quiet spot anywhere when your not in your home and tell him that's it's the same as the naughty step at home,he will be suprised that there could be a naughty place outside of the home,also maybe he is screaming cos he can,and maybe your allowing him to do it cos you don't have the confidence to tell him not to,so next time he is naughty look around for a quiet corner in a shop or where ever you are and give him a warning then if he still doesn't listen to you,point out the naughty corner etc.Good luck

Hi Parker

I do believe the screaming is a form of frustration due to limited speech as my son who is 2 speaks very few words and will hit when I think he just wants to say 'No'. He used to scream when I told him off but persisently telling him to stop screaming worked and now I give him 'The Look' and he doesn't scream anymore

As regards pulling naughty behaviour in line while out shopping, give the warning like you do at home and then like sizzy said if you find a corner in the shop and tell him to stop his screaming/naughty behaviour or else he'll be on a naughty spot.

I wish you all the best Parker

Thanks for the advise, I will give it a go.

If the problem is at the shops, the best thing is to plan ahead a bit so that he doesn't need to be told off when you are out. I know when you are shopping its hard work with a little one, but if you can try and keep him interested in what you are doing, and have a few plans in mind of ways to distract him before he starts to be naughty, then it should gradually become easier.
He could maybe have his own little shopping list, or have your list and tick things off when you've got them - you might need to make a list at home with cut out pictures - again thats something he can do.
Basically anything you can do to make it fun and not boring and hopefully he will forget about being naughty. He may well associate going to the shops with getting told off -in the same way that you do, so its become a habit.
Then there's the obvious bribe at the end if he has been good all of the time.

Thanks Valkeys,
I should have mentioned that it's more when we get to the checkout that he starts to wonder etc, he gets bored whilst packing the shopping although i do try to encourage him to help and praise him whilst doing so.

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Originally posted by parker1:
he gets bored whilst packing the shopping although i do try to encourage him to help and praise him whilst doing so.

well it sounds like you're already doing the right things parker1, stick with it, it's just a phase and it will pass

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Originally posted by parker1:
Hi there,
I have a 3 1/2 year old son who screams very loudly when being told off or when asked not to do something that he shouldn't be doing. I can punish him whilst at home by placing him on the naught step after giving him warning which works but I don't know how to stop it if we are out somewhere such as shopping. Apart from that he is usually quite well behaved. He does suffer from a speach delay and has limited speach so I don't know if this might be connected to the screaming. Any suggestions?

Hi, it is more than likely his delayed speech, he gets frustrated and cannot express himself hence he screams. Does he have speech and language therapist? If so have you spoken about this, does he use pecs?

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Originally posted by Rodmann:

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Originally posted by parker1:
Hi there,
I have a 3 1/2 year old son who screams very loudly when being told off or when asked not to do something that he shouldn't be doing. I can punish him whilst at home by placing him on the naught step after giving him warning which works but I don't know how to stop it if we are out somewhere such as shopping. Apart from that he is usually quite well behaved. He does suffer from a speach delay and has limited speach so I don't know if this might be connected to the screaming. Any suggestions?

Hi, it is more than likely his delayed speech, he gets frustrated and cannot express himself hence he screams. Does he have speech and language therapist? If so have you spoken about this, does he use pecs?

My son has delayed speech also, and since the pecs was introduced, screaming has become less, and also try not to react to the screaming.

What about some sort of reward chart system that he can see when he is being a good boy.

www.thenaughtyseat.co.uk

they also have portable solutions for when you are out.

Hope helps
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