Need a bit of help on this one. Im 21 years old and have just started dating a bolke that is 42. Im not exactly what you would call a 'young 21 year old' Been living out of the family home for 5 years, have a good job and have been through some quite big things in my life but I am still aware that there are some quite big experience differences there. Just wanted to know peoples opinions on it all really and if anyone else has had much experience in large age difference relationships
I,ve never had this problem as there is only 3yrs between hubby and me, But if he had been 21 yrs older than me i would still have fallen in love with him. I say go for it and if you're both happy thats all that matters.
Originally posted by Vicki123412: Need a bit of help on this one. Im 21 years old and have just started dating a bolke that is 42. Im not exactly what you would call a 'young 21 year old' Been living out of the family home for 5 years, have a good job and have been through some quite big things in my life but I am still aware that there are some quite big experience differences there. Just wanted to know peoples opinions on it all really and if anyone else has had much experience in large age difference relationships
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Oh Vicki, think about this one very carefully! If you are in love with him, you will no doubt put to the back of your mind the obvious problems, and anyway 42 is quite young --- NOW--- BUT--- think about when he is in his 60's and no longer needs, or may be is--UNABLE-- to have sex. You will still be very young and active. Believe me it WILL create problems, no matter how much you tell yourself it won't, and no matter how much you still love him. A life for a young person, without the joy of love making, can be very VERY hard to come to terms with! If you do marry him, then I pray that this doesn't happen to you! Good luck and God bless!
My sister was 21 when she met her husband who was 43, It was fine for the first few years then the problems that lead to his first 2 divorces started creeping in, He takes her for granted and makes her miserable, He has destroyed her confidence and she feels trapped because they have 2 kids. He's not abusive he just dosent know how to make a relationship work, My advise is follow your heart but dont make any life changing decisions and see how it goes
Originally posted by bingette: I have always said age is just a number, my boyfriend is 10 yrs older than me if you like the guy dont worry about his age
if your happy what does age mean ,as one member said age is a number , at the end of the day its what u make of your relationship that means more, have fun if it dont work out than find some one else plenty of fish in the sea as they say
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age shouldn't matter! as long u both happy! and got alot in common! my aunty married someone who was 25 yrs older. had 5 children! thinking about it. all my aunty married older men, on my mum side! my mum married someone near her age!
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age shouldn't matter if they are both over 18,it would also depend on the type of person,but the extreeme would be for a person to be say,80 and the other one to be 18,but if you get on and can have a laugh,and respect each other it shouldn't matter what the age gap is.
I don't think it matters quite as much, if the older person is a woman, or if the relationship starts at a fairly early age. The trouble occurs when, say a woman in her 40's or 50's partners a man in his late 60's onward. A woman is still sexually active, but some men(and I say SOME men) are unable to have sex at a certain age even if they really want to, and this can lead to a very frustrated wife! Not so bad if they have been together a long time and have lots of wonderful memories to look back on. I expect some of you will be shouting that sex isn't everything, and I agree, but it's a very big issue when you love some one so much and yet are left without the usual way of expressing that love, and also having the need within satisfied!
Age shouldn`t matter so long as both are happy with the relationship, its down to the individuals really
I was with a bloke 15 years older than me and found him great company but also was with a bloke 8 years younger but I found him very childish and did feel too much like I had another child, which wasn`t for me but each to their own
and got alot in common! my aunty married someone who was 25 yrs older. had 5 children! 
