Originally posted by BenWheawell: I was just wondering, did anyone catch where the family on tonight's show is from?
It's just that I could have sworn that they just visited my local Ice Rink
We live in Bishop's Stortford and I would appreciate you keeping your opinions regarding my daughter to yourself. She is a caring, compassionate little girl, she is also very bright. She took exception to a stranger coming into her home and making changes - something I think you would do too. I would also like to point out that we had film crew and production teams in our home for several weeks - they all loved Meghann. You saw 50 mins out of 50 hours of filming so please think a little before you make such hurtful comments regarding a very loving family - Denise Cooke, Very Proud Mother of three beautiful girls - Bishop's Stortford
I was concerned for all of the little girls in the show. Megahann is a very strong willed little girl and her behaviour is attention seeking. If you noticed she hit out or became aggressive when attention was deflected from her onto the other two little ones. I couldn't see much to worry about with them BTW, they seemed to be quite sweet and in my opinion the middle one was copying her older sister to an extent but was quite complient when challenged about her behaviour by the mother.
I found the show disturbing in some ways, I feel that Meghann can very violent especially towards her two sisters and needs professional help from a child physcologist & should not have been the subject for this show. The programme makers must surely refer to some professional body before they take on a case. If not then they should. The level of aggression and violence shown by Megahann was worrying.
If it had been my child and the presence of the crew had disturbed her so much I'd have called a halt to the show and refused to let her be subjected to any more. I sometimes wonder if it the presence of the cameras which makes these children worse, much worse than they would normally be.
Mrs P. Mother of four and a Teacher for twelve years.
What you witnessed was 50 mins of 50 hours of filming. Meghann was so angry that Jo was in our home - she is a wonderful daughter who does well at school. Channel Four are making a programme that they want you to watch - the more extreme the better. Once we have signed contracts there is no way out and there were times when we questioned what we had done. However, Jo is an amazing lady who had helped us all so much. We have been to doctors regarding Meghann's behaviour in the past but been told that she is a "wilful" child and that physcology was not an option. Life for us is improving daily and I know, in my heart, that Meghann will be an amazing adult.
Yeh...the show was exhausting! trust my mum to come home about 15mins from the end and talk al the way fru it about wot we need on the shopping list....LIKE I NO! I feel for the mum! i wudnt be able to cope...big time! i was quite shocked to hear a 9yr old girl callin their guest a bitch! and attacking her! she needs to get outa that coz if she can do it to her, a stranger, whats to say she wont do it to ppl, wen shes a bit older, and get in serious trouble wiv police! i liked their little chear leading outfits..I WANT 1! and Denise270 considering u have only 1 post i recon ur not her n are just pretending to be her. if u r really her..upsy!
I saw the programme & read the reply from Denise. It matters not whether Denise IS the mum from the programme or whether she was pointing out a few home truths. I work with children with behaviour issues & i have a child with various disabilitiies. I also have two other children. My daughter (my eldest) was a two year old nightmare..no toddler has ever shocked me as much as she did...she could beat Meghann hands down! We stuck to our guns over how we treated her (we didn't have a supernanny..but similar ideas)& she eventually settled down. The upside was/is as a teen she has been a dream! Other parents are openly jealous,& we are proud of her.She is caring,high spirited,sensitive to others,clever,& community minded. I laughed at some of Meghanns behaviours as I have memories of our daughter! I think the family were very brave & wish them well. Should they have done it? Yes,overall I think they should have. They were in a rut & there are not always professionals around to help.Some areas have cut the children behaviour teams out altogether due to budget problems,so they may not have been able to access anyone.Even if they could,there are no guarentees that the person they get will be as helpful as they could be. It was a bad thing to do in a lot of ways,but sometimes you have to bite the bullet & well done to them for saying we need help & putting themselves through it. It may also offer advice worth trying to another family. As a point of fact...The new Inclusion plan excludes a plan of action for EBD children,& more & more children are going to be going through mainstream schooling (All EBD schools to be closed by 2010)..we will see more & more behaviour challenged children,& as many special schools have proved..many many children can be helped.
Originally posted by BenWheawell: I was just wondering, did anyone catch where the family on tonight's show is from?
It's just that I could have sworn that they just visited my local Ice Rink
We live in Bishop's Stortford and I would appreciate you keeping your opinions regarding my daughter to yourself. She is a caring, compassionate little girl, she is also very bright. She took exception to a stranger coming into her home and making changes - something I think you would do too. I would also like to point out that we had film crew and production teams in our home for several weeks - they all loved Meghann. You saw 50 mins out of 50 hours of filming so please think a little before you make such hurtful comments regarding a very loving family - Denise Cooke, Very Proud Mother of three beautiful girls - Bishop's Stortford
I think you will find that the minute you agreed to appear on national TV you left yourself wide open to other peoples opinions. I personally can't understand how you let things get so bad that child should have been kicked into 2006. You are reaping what you have sown what was all that about pulling a silly face to Meghann when Supernanny announced her rules? Any child that bites a guest and calls her a bitch should be applying for a role in the new Omen film.
I didn't know there was already a thread on supernanny!
I heard Supernanny is making/has made a series where she works her magic on teenagers. If thats true, I can't wait to see it! Surely they'd just rebel, I mean she can't be as hard as say...Brat camp and teenagers are alot stronger than little kids if they decide to get physical and attack.
I'm 13 and I wouldn't buckle under to some 'reflection room' or 'naughty circle'. I don't know how she'll go about it.
xxmoxx - Thank you so much for your understanding. I believe children are born with their character and Meghann's was big. She has always been very different to her sisters - they have been brought up in exactly the same way.
Whyzippyisorange - if you have the perfect family, i am very happy for you. I certainly am not "reaping what I have sown". And as for kicking her into 2006 - if that sums up your parenting, good luck to you and your children. I think the programme focussed on Meghann's reaction to Jo rather than her general behaviour. I was as shocked as you obviously were regarding her reaction to Jo - but really, Jo wasn't just a normal guest was she. Meghann understood what was happening and yes, her reaction was extreme. I can leave Meghann with anyone safe in the knowledge that she would not treat people that way, as I have said, she is a caring, compassionate little girl who was threatened. Her issues only arise at home. Yes, of course, by appearing on national TV we are leaving ourselves open to other people's opinions but that really is a very small price to pay. And, I don't think you will see Meghann appearing in any Omen films - "bitch" is probably the worse word that has ever come out of her mouth and I had not heard it from her mouth before her angry outburst.
Mrs Pledge - I just wanted to add that Meghann is very protective of her sisters - she will protect them from anything - she loves them and they love her without reservation - I really want to reiterate that 50 mins taken from 50 hours isn't much of an insight .. Denise
Are the changes Supernanny made still helping? I must admit to being shocked by Meghann's temper but any person, adult or child, wouldn't take too kindly to a stranger coming in and taking over their family. I couldn't really blame her for being upset over the princesses thing because 9 is a difficult age, especially for little girls. My eldest child is 8 and is past the stage of playing with dolls etc but still too young to go out alone with her friends and do things that older girls like to do. Meghann is definitely a strong-willed child but with all that passion directed in a positive way I'm sure she'll grow to be a wonderful adult and an asset to your family.
Hi Karen - yes, life is so much better. We have just returned from holiday to Mallorca and had a very relaxed time - usually it is stressful. I feel sad that we had to resort to the "Super Nanny" thing because I would have loved to do it alone but we really couldn't - we needed a neutral third party to tell us where we were going wrong and, surprisingly, I was able to take the criticism (constructive) from Jo (something I didn't think I would be able to handle!) Yes, Meghann is strong willed but I am sure she will be a great adult - she has always been very "mature" and is a very bright child. I know her behaviour was AWFUL when she attacked Jo and if only I could get inside her head to fully understand her emotions. However, I think the producers focussed on Meghann's reaction to Jo RATHER than her general behaviour. She is a lovely child with loads of friends and lots of compassion. Thanks again for your support. Denise
have loved to do it alone but we really couldn't - we needed a neutral third party to tell us where we were going wrong and, surprisingly, I was able to take the criticism (constructive) from Jo (something I didn't think I would be able to handle!) Yes, Meghann is strong willed but I am sure she will be a great adult - she has always been very "mature" and is a very bright child. I know her behaviour was AWFUL when she attacked Jo and if only I could get inside her head to fully understand her emotions. However, I think the producers focussed on Meghann's reaction to Jo RATHER than her general behaviour. She is a lovely child with loads of friends and lots of compassion. Thanks again for your support. Denise
Hi Denise, glad to hear life is going far better for you all
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."
I can only imagine what it's like to hear one's family 'dissected' in this way by the public. However one must realise that is what will happen once one is on television airing one's problems. That is after all, what these message boards are for.
I can see that Meghann (and her sisters) is/are very bright and creative. However her behavior truly was unacceptable ;0) to anyone - and the wounds on the youngest appear to tell a story. Normal children do not act this way. Period. If you are in denial, it's understandable - but it is not going to help your beloved children.
I'd say there is no harm in giving a family therapist a try - as well as individual therapy for Meghann. Just because she can turn it off and on - does not mean she copes in healthy ways. Moreover, what about right and wrong? She doesn't seem bothered my smashing her sister's head into a brick wall at one point.
I might also posit to you that a normal 9 year old does not see a visitor as "a threat" - certainly not to the point of launching a physical attack. And where did she learn the word "b*tch"?
The fact that she did all that and no one seemed shocked or surprised also told the viewers much more than you may realise. We're not stupid, Denise.
I'd feel much safer with Gordon Ramsay in the kitchen than not.
Sorry Kim but I think you ARE stupid - TV is very clever - of course they don't show you the reaction - afterall it wouldn't make good viewing and make everyone realise that we are a normal family. I hope you and your family are still PERFECT.
Meghann is a normal child and we do not need therapy - thanks for your advice - perhaps you need therapy????????????? By the way, my children did not have wounds - Erin had a skin problem during the course of the filming - so she had not been inflicted by her sister
Jd, Mandy, You tried to destroy another forum, dont come on this forum and bring the badness with you. What you did over there was totally out of order.You cant answer for your wrongs on this forum, by making quotes from the other.
Laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry and you cry alone. If you enjoy something once,. Do it again. .
That'd be somethin'.
