I think if you need to call a camera crew and an 'expert' ( I think it's just common sense) into your house to tell you how to look after your children, you have officially failed as a parent.

Well, I am so pleased that you are a pefect parent - you obviously are - but sadly you are not living in the real world. Get a life and look further than your nose. I certainly haven't failed as a parent and did what I did for my family. I have three lovely little girls but my husband and I had lost track - you witnessed that - sadly because I would have preferred to do it privately. Happily our family are still together - unlike so many other families. I hope you continue with your perfect life.

Hi Denise

I can't believe the number of negative criticisms you get from the show. I dont think you deserve them. I dont understand these people. How can they judge you after only watching 50 minutes of your lives? Do they not know how the film making industry work? Or do they do it so differently in california?

If I were you, i wouldn't bother to explain myself to these people.

Hello Denise,
I want to wish you well, I think that you have been extremley brave in what you have done for your family. I also want to say that no family is perfect and I think that all families struggle from time to time. It's easy for me to say that, mine have all grown and some are parents themselves now. However, that does not stop me worrying about them! I just wonder about some areas of programmes like 'Supernanny' etc. I wonder what it says about the society that we live in. Society that is not prepared to shell out for the costs of good quality support and care for families but is prepared to watch the private struggles for 'entertainment' value. I can believe every word of what Denise has said about the amount of time filmed and the behaviour that was eventually broadcast. I have often wondered if the children that are shown on programmes like these ever suffer any after effects from their peers at school etc. I also have wondered if JoJo, or her counterparts, have any children themselves? Hope all is going well with you and your family Denise.

CAMME1903 and BIG MUVVER
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Sorry everyone Please ignore the last post, i see the person it was intended for has been removed.

What had she said?????????????????????

its okay , i got her banned ages ago , she was overall being mean about everyones opinions .

I absolutely love this programme, and am really sad it has finished again. Even though my kids have grown up and have both tried to live on their own devices, one has come back, and I am finding it really hard to stop running after him like I used to!!
They are good kids, but I know, coming from a divorced marriage, that it becomes harder to be the "mother and father", and still get respect, when I watch Supernanny, she makes it look so logical, and I wish I had the knowledge from the beginning, as I hope I would have done things different, as I know perhaps it wouldn't have given me all the heartache and tears!!

Can't wait for the new series, JOJO, as even though my kids are grown into young adults, I love to know that I am or wasn't the only one to mess up.

Love ya and all you do, please don't stop!

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I think if you need to call a camera crew and an 'expert' ( I think it's just common sense) into your house to tell you how to look after your children, you have officially failed as a parent.

Hi, sorry I don't wish to cause offence, but are you called boggleyes, as I think you should be called rose tinted glasses eyes!!
Have you got kids at all, cos if you have perhaps you should be telling us all how we are such crap parents. If you have got kids, how old are they, 1-18 months, cos believe me you have a wonderful world of parenting if they are above that, and not brainwashed with todays living and peer pressure.
We have 6 kids between us, and luckily only have had the pleasure of living with 2 of them full time, because through their teens, it was often hell, and I just wanted to disappear.
The sad thing was that we were all that we had to be, when needed, but not GOD when things went wrong!!
All I feel is that your comments are abit shallow and if you have got kids or any experience of them, then perhaps you should write a book of your exclusive achievements!!

I love Meghann !
How is she now ? This episode was filmed in 2005 so she must be 11 by now.

i don't think i ever watched this epi of Supernanny.

Denise i hope your daughter is doing ok now.

Did any of you watch Wed's episode of Supernanny re: Cameron?

Hello
Meghann is 11 1/2 and has just started secondary school. She's always needed to be 11!!!!! She's great and life is quieter! We were re-visited in May and it's on Channel four this Wednesday, 19th!!!!
Thanks
Denise Cooke

Wasn't it nice to see things have settled down a bit for this family. Such bright and lovely girls - who had just got a wee bit out of hand, and once they had consistency and consequences, what a change it made. I learned myself at cost that shouting and losing my OWN temper with my rather wilful daughter was actually part of the problem, but I wish I had had Jo to speed up my learning process

Wasn't it also lovely to see Meghann and her sister Irish-dancing so beautifully? Wish they had devoted a bit more footage to that! I can see them being talented performers, with their high energy and extrovert nature.

You go on a TV programme knowing full well that you will be filmed, probably to make things look worse than they are and knowing that people will talk about you.

It is ridiculous to then complain about people having their opinions.

Why sign up to the show in the first place?

People should bring up their kids how they see fit but really all Supernanny does is give parents some common sense. Kids should do what their parents say and behave how they are told to behave.

Personally if one of my kids behaved like Meghan did at age 9 then they'd be getting a well smacked bottom. Of course because I didn't tolerate behaviour like that at a younger age and because behaviour like that had very clear consequences (a well smacked bottom) by the time they were 9 there were few problems.

My kids would never dream of hitting me or any other adult for that matter nor dream of talking back.

They are loved and balanced children/teens but they have been brought up to be disciplined and yes have been punished when naughty.

Just to say I am really happy that you are obviously the perfect mother of perfect children. My children too are loved and well balanced and believe me they too have had red bottoms when necessary. Until you actually KNOW somebody I don't think you can make such ambiguous comments. Good luck with your perfect life.

Denise that is fair enough.

I wasn't particularly questioning you as a mother, sorry if it came across as that.

Did you make a conscious decision not to smack your kids during the making of the programme then?

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Wasn't it nice to see things have settled down a bit for this family. Such bright and lovely girls - who had just got a wee bit out of hand, and once they had consistency and consequences, what a change it made. I learned myself at cost that shouting and losing my OWN temper with my rather wilful daughter was actually part of the problem, but I wish I had had Jo to speed up my learning process

Wasn't it also lovely to see Meghann and her sister Irish-dancing so beautifully? Wish they had devoted a bit more footage to that! I can see them being talented performers, with their high energy and extrovert nature.

Yeah, Erin was the only probem.But why don't they use the reflection room?

Just for the record .......

While Erin was being videoed having the first paddy I have ever seen her having at bedtime, I did tell the cameraman this was such bizarre behaviour - I had NEVER seen her behaving like that at bedtime. For some reason, they chose to show that "completely not typical" behaviour and I was shocked to the core when I saw it used in the programme. So, see the whole picture, not the snapshot. Erin did seem to play to the cameras and you don't know that we didn't use the reflection room. They were with us for a week and had EIGHT HOURS of recording to use for this small part of the programme.

In reality, they could have made the "follow up" programme with footage they captured during Jo's original visit.

I would have loved them to show more of the children dancing - they also filmed Meghann playing netball, lots more playing together etc., etc. It seems a shame that the programme is just a repeat of the original with a tiny "ps" tagged onto the end. I guess the show is called "supernanny" and that's who it is mainly about!

bbfan_555 - thank you for your reply. I don't make a habit of smacking the children - I only use smacking as a last resort and I guess I just didn't feel the need when the cameras were here - it wasn't a conscious decision! Thanks again!

denise,
I am sorry that everyone seems o be having a go at you and your daughter but as you say the footage was very well edited that way !
I too was shocked at what i saw to start with and had probably the same thoughts as the other posters on here but after seeing the aftershow bit at the end it was good to see how Meghann had changed and how she seemed so much more friendly and respectful and grown up!!
The programme obviously had the desired effect so all i can say is fair play to you and your husband for asking for and accepting help from Jo as it must have been hard for you to take part in and then watch the footage back (and now face this barrage of faceless critism)
i hope your family stays happy!!!

I saw the episode of Supernanny when it was first aired featuring Meghan. If she's such a lovely child then why did Supernanny have to get involved? Surely her Parent's must have known what was involved with the cameras. As for filming for 50 hours so what? We still saw wgat she was like. Kicking screaming spitting and most of all swearing at Jo. Jo is absolutely amazing at what she does. Without her loads of Parent's would still be in turmoil, she's such a nice person with it. I can't believe she doesn't have Children. As For Denise being to irate about what people are saying fair enough because it is your child being described, but people are entitled to their opinions. Just be glad that Meghan has improved and she is no longer that child. The only thing is if you don't like what people are saying then why on earth be re-visited?

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Stripey Sid - thank you

BecWill - I agreed to a re-visit to get closure for Meghann - and I have no regrets on this decision. We applied to Supernanny in the first instance because of the dynamics of the whole family - not just Meghann - but, because Meghann reacted so adversely to the whole situation the producers decided to focus on her and she because the focal point. The main issues with Meghann arose once the camera crew were in our home. I will reiterate that she is a lovely child. Meghann is STILL the same child - SHE has not changed. WE have all taken on board that we needed to change. And I will stress again that possibly out of the 50 HOURS footage the bad behavioiur would have made up a VERY SMALL PERCENT of that. I would say that you put a camera crew in ANY home for a week and you would get some bad behaviour. I am angry at myself for writing this because why should I but - as you said it is my child - who you do not know - that is being bashed. We were VERY niave when we went into the programme - we were told that they would show good footage too (not) They interviewed the children's teachers who have nothing but positive things to say about my children.

How do you know that on the revisit 90% of the behaviour was bad and they only showed the good 10% ??????

Think about it and stop giving us such a hard time.

Hey i think the new series of supernanny has been really good so far a variety of problems have been solved!! The revisits i agree should show more footage of the improvments made rather than old footage replayed!!
It was great to see meghann and the twins with their families enjoyin themselves rather than arguing!! great job mums dads n supernanny!!

CamRon - Thank you! It's nice to read something "nice" rather than negative comments from people! It's much appreciated!

Meghann's (and Gabriella and Erin's) (proud) mum
xox