Hello, anyone out there having the experience of terrible 2's tantrums. My son is 2½ and if I say NO to him he absolutely flips. I have got a naughty corner and I do ignore him when he is tantruming. I am going mad with his behaviour. I feel I am doing everything i should, like : ignore him, walk away etc. But it has hit the peak and I could throttle him.
I know every child goes thru it but my daughter is worse being nearly 4 than being 2??????
They say you should enjoy the younger years as teenagers are hard work too....but at the mo i think this is hell.
The thing is tho...he looks like a bloody angel and everyone feels for him when he is crying when i say he can't have another biscuit..grrrrrrrrrrrr
Tell me your experiences of this and how you cope and if i am missing something!! xxx
I have 4 children and all of them went through it differently... My best bit of advice would be to try to understand your child. He is at an age where he knows what he wants but can't understand a)what you are saying most of the time (cos he's too young) and b)why you are saying no now when you might have said yes previously. With biscuits try having a couple in a box and when they have gone show him the empty box, get him to play with the box to take his mind off wanting more biscuits.. You could try just having them after a meal so that he learns thats when we have biscuits. I also found trying to explain things to children was mostly useless but finding a short easy to understand way of explaining is a good idea...e.g.not now, after dinner, or sorry honey they have all gone. Hope some of this might help. You are not missing something, Children are difficult to understand and it's doubly hard 'cos they find us hard to fathom too!Good luck
stick with it! you know what to do already just be consistent and don't back down, if you say... "right, if you continue this behaviour there's no brownies/swimming" ...whatever stick to it no matter what. my daughter was the b!tch from hell between 18 months and 5yrs. a long time i know, but we stuck with time outs for evil stroppiness and rewards for good behaviour and now we're reaping the rewards. at 6yrs she began to take herself off to her room if she got in a paddy till she calmed down and now, as a seven yr old she's a real pleasure to have around. she has her moments but she's easy to reason with and rarely needs a raised voice from us.
you have my every sympathy, but keep calm, be strong and you'll get through it
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my daughter was the b!tch from hell between 18 months and 5yrs
Mines overtook her role!!! shes a right one, very demanding, throwing herself around when she cant get her own way, but I dont give in to her, its very hard sometimes tho. My 4 yr old was an angel compared!! Yes I agree, do stick with it, its hard but hopefully worth it at the end!
Another good thing to do is let her know when she has made you happy, heap on the praise she will love it and want more. It really is worth it! You will look back in years to come and smile. Keep your chin up and keep smiling.
my daughter was hell from the moment she could move, always throwing her head back on the floor in a paddy, i was up and down the hospital thinking she'd really hurt herself, luckily she didnt.
it lasted till she turned 3 and my son was born almost overnight she changed into an angel she does what shes told and although she throws the occasional strop she just storms of upstairs now.
i think she got to a certain point and realised she couldnt get away with it anymore.
although my son is now 17 months and has just started throwing himself back in a tantrum, although hes much smarter than my daughter he stops his head from hitting the floor
all i can say is hopefully your son should grow out of it soon as he reaches 3 or starts nursery/school.
How reassuring to read that other people's children have tried to hurt themselves when tantruming, because I have been really worried about my son, who turns 2 this month, doing that. He sometimes bites himself too, and seems to do it in a really calculating way. When I tell people they can't believe that he's clever enough at his age to know that doing this kind of thing will twist you inside out, but I think that's exactly why he does it. Still may have a word with the doctor about it though, given what becky_23 says.
i have four children, the youngest two are aged 16mths and 6mths, my little boy who is 16mths has been having his "terrible twos" for the past two months and to look at this child who has the face of an "angel" with his big blue eyes and blonde hair turn into a "little devil" within seconds is beyond belief
as in the case of loulou he also bites himself with such force that he permantly has a very nasty sore on his finger, he also throws himself on the floor and throws any object he can put his hands on (watch out for flying dvds)
family members say that he will soon grow out of it but when he does i suppose my 6mths old will be old enough to start hers lol
