I have two girls, 4 and 8. There has been a lot of change in our house lately and I am concerned about the girls. My husband has recently moved out, we have just got a new au pair and my youngest daughter has started school. Can you offer advise on how to be a good mum to the girls as I am worried. The oldest girl is very sensitive and asking why daddy doesn't live with us. My youngest daughter is "mad" and although very funny most of the time, she can throw big tantrums, wet her pants and hit/bite/scratch her sister. 2 questions: What should i do to make my 8 year old feel secure? How do I control my younger daughter?

Im no expert at this sort of thing so I cant really say.... errmm Ill think about it and if anything comes to mind Ill tell you!

i was in the same situation,but my youngest was too young to understand when her dad left. she asked today why her dad didn't live with us anymore, came as a shock after all this time. best thing to do is reassure them that you both still love them but things weren't right between you and their dad and that you would rather them see you both happy apart than together and argue/unhappy etc