I have a just turned 5 year old son and a new 10 week old daughter, and they are fantastic kids. Zachary loves his new sister and will do anything he can to help out with her. Ezme is a dream and very placid. my problem is, I think zach is acting out in way thats not the 'norm' for a new arrival. He seems to be regressing in every thing we thought him, manners,naughty step etc etc. He wanted to be home more,so he finishes school at 1.30pm and then 3 days a week he is home with me and Ezzy after school. Im playing with him,having art time,baking time,everything! But he seems angry at me,and not his dad.He respects his dad more.I figured as im home with him all day, his aggression would be aimed at his Dad, just because! But he wont dare cross his Dad. I dont want his time with me to be constant "no's", that I'm at him all the time. How do i get him to listen and enjoy his time with me?I feel like he resents me, even though he adores his sister. He is a super kid,very funny,outgoing and i think he is a scream,but i want to figure out how to see more of that side to him again? Any advice?
This kind of behaviour is so the norm, he resents his baby but does not understand resentment, he wont take it out on baby but on the person closest to him and thats his mum. He doesnt even understand why he is treating you this way which makes his behaviour worse. Perseverence is the only answer for this one. Keep reminding him that you love him and that he is special in his very own special way. At the same time though he mustnt get away with anything, try not to make allowances or excuses, he will notice the change in you and use it to his advantage. Good luck
