Should you give less money to the baby mother when she moves a new man into the house?
seeing that if hes living there then hes taking up finantial responsibility.
becasuse baby mother pays no rent, pays no council tax, and get s a crapload of cash off the gvnt, pluss has a man that works... no way should the baby father ( in my opinion ) continue giving piles of cash to fund the baby mothers "lifestyle" with this new man.
if they want that, then HE pays, not baby father. who DOES have rent/mortage council tax, bills ect as well as still having to buy all the baby stuff for when the kids are
What a stupid topic, if a man in clever enough to produce a baby then they have to pay for it all its life, only if new partner adopts the child does the biological father then reliquish any rights and therefor does not have to pay child support..
err no... not when baby mother drinks and smokes all baby father contributions.
for example... CSA want £5 per week.
Baby father gives extra £50 + weeks supply of nappies, milk, food, wipes ect.
yet baby mother wastes that on herself and new man, then demands more money....
is that fair on baby father who still has his own life to live and bills to pay and would gladly take full custody of the kids to remove them from the b**ch of a mother?
baby father couls alway just say sod you and let the CSA deal with it, meaning babymother now would only get the £5 per week...
If this person is you then you are truely gormless, just pay the £5 a week and buy you child clothes and nappies then there is no problem..
although anyone including the csa thinks £5 a week is enough is beyond me, if youv'e got the hump cos shes met another man get over it, you prioity is the baby not her lifestyle!
the CSA's requirements of payment are pretty pethetic, nobody can live on £5 per week.
but baby mother is takin the proverbial buiscuit. as in she will only ever buy the most expensive of options.
i.e Premixed baby milk in cartons instead of the tub of powderd milk which costs half as much, if not less...
would setting up a bankaccount dedicated to paying the "extra" maintenence and setting up a monthly/weekly ballence transferr into babymothers account be a wise choice ?
in so doing, babyfather can send the documented monthy satements of accounts to the CSA to show that he's exceeding his entitlements, and contributing his fair share?
Originally posted by PaPa SmUrFF: Should you give less money to the baby mother when she moves a new man into the house?
seeing that if hes living there then hes taking up finantial responsibility.
becasuse baby mother pays no rent, pays no council tax, and get s a crapload of cash off the gvnt, pluss has a man that works... no way should the baby father ( in my opinion ) continue giving piles of cash to fund the baby mothers "lifestyle" with this new man.
if they want that, then HE pays, not baby father. who DOES have rent/mortage council tax, bills ect as well as still having to buy all the baby stuff for when the kids are
discuss...
if he moves in and has a job, then she will lose all benefits, including housing benefit and council tax benefit. i think it's up to the parents of the child to come to a fair decision , but that's a fairytale in my world, the dad of my kids doesn't pay anything anymore and i live alone. i don't get heaps of cash from the government and i struggle to pay bills and buy my kids stuff. it's not all pretty flowers and shiny happy people in the real world.
*gets off her soapbox*
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As i said PaPa, in an ideal world, everything would be perfect and everyone would be nice and caring, but unfortunately, it isn't and some are nice and get screwed, some are the screwers, i don't ask my ex for money, he sees the kids every week and has them over night if he wants to, i consider me to be one of the screwed, lol.
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I know you must have your reasons jetty, but if he is seeing his kids willy nilly, when he wants in other words. i would take money off him at every oppotunity!
i don't want his money, lol, he does buy the kids clothes occasionally and shoes, but if he gave me money, i wouldn't be better off than i am now. he used to leave me a couple of weeks with nothing and control when i got the money, i prefer to not have that feeling of being under his control
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Eat drink and be merry, for tomorrow they may make it illegal.
Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.
