On tuesday night i found out i had my 12 week scan comin up but the letter said i was only allowed to bring one person, so i thot to my self who has the most knowledge on babies whose been there and done everythin to do with babies.....so i asked my mum to come with me.
But wen i told the babies dad he hit the roof sayin i was out of order and it shud be him comin with me n not my mum but wen i told him i needed some one who acctualy knows wats goin on n who can support me if summats wrong, he turned round and said er...incase u aint noticed i have been there before i do have a son. yeah a son who he doesnt see only coz he lives an hours train ride away but still no excuse. plus mum cant stand him, she hates him that much i wont even allow them to be in the same room as each other.
Did i do the right thing by askin my mum or shud the dad be there...wat are your views xx

Well, it's a bit late now although you could explain to your doctor what happened and it's possible they can arrange another scan where your partner can be present.
Personally, I'd have taken a partner not my mother but we all do what we think is right at the time.

You obviously felt more comfortable with your mum rather than your partner, particularly if, heaven forbid, something had been wrong. I can certainly understand your partner being upset, but if he really wants to be involved, the most important thing is that the baby is healthy and not that he was there for a particular scan. Maybe invite him to the 20 week one if you feel comfortable with that.

I understand why you wanted your mum there, but I think this was really unfair and probably very hurtful for your partner...

I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but this is HIS baby just as much as it is yours - you made it together.

I hope you can arrange another scan with him on the NHS, if not you could also look at paying for a private scan. The 3/4D ones are expensive(roughly £200), but you can get more basis scans for around £75 in my area - check this out locally.

Oops sorry: Just re-read your post and think maybe I picked you up wrong.

Sounds like he maybe isn't the type to provide love and support for you and the baby, so choosing your mum would make sense in this situation.

It's hard to say without knowing how he feels about both you and baby.

Hope I didn't offend x

I would have definitely taken my partner and not my mother. Although I love my mum very much, this is between the 2 of you as a couple. I'm sure he's really hurt by this and you'll have a lot of ground to make up with him.