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What kind of bedtime routine do you have? Do you do bath, story, cuddle etc? Might be worth trying a star chart - star for every night she can stay in bed and a treat when she gets a certain number of stars. I know it's easier said than done but do try to stay calm - when everyone's screamong and upset it's just going to get worse. Good luck  |
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Thanks for replying Rachel. Our bedtime routine, is wash etc, pyjamas, story and little chat about the day. Cuddle then we leave her for 15mins wind-down time. She either reads or plays her gameboy. After that we expect lights out and for her to fall asleep. We don't bath at night-time as this makes her really hyper and just exasperates our problems. We did do a star chart, but she would play up and constantly knock on the door asking if she'd lost her star for that day. It was almost like she was deliberately trying to be bad so she never actually got any stars. I think over a 4 week period she got 4 stars and its really gone by the bye now. You are right about staying calm as I feel its just a button pushing exercise and she wins everytime. We start each evening determined to stay calm but she always manages to wear us down. However last night we managed to get through the evening without one raised voice so thats a start. |
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Cinderella,
Im new on hear and just read your post. Im no expert and probably watched all the programms you have.
The thing is with these bed training is you have to be hard, you have to be calm and you have to be supported.
I would not give her the gameboy - could make her too hyped before bedtime - but a book is ok.
Secondly if she knock on your door (I am guessing the lounge or whatever - you have to take her back to bed - no eye contact, first time you have to say "back to bed please" nothing else, I would only say this for the first 5 times she gets up - after that say nothing.
dont enter into a conversation, ignore curtain problems etc etc need for drinks blah blah
everytime she gets up, take her back. It could take 100 times the first night- so you have to be tough and be consistent. I think shes of an age where a reward at the end of the week would be better - like if you go to bed with out a fuss for the whole week you will get a treat at the end of the week.
The thing is you have to be consistent - i know its hard. But once youve cracked it life will be sweet.
Good luck.
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Hello cinders, you know there are things you might have to look at like your little girl playing her gameboy before she goes to bed things like computers, tv and mobile phones occupy's the brain to which you cant sleep at night. Check out the foods and drinks as well which could make your little girl hyper as well. But if none of these things work then maybe you should lay the law down and take the things away she most likes and earns them back. You just have to go through the channels as see where there is a problem. |
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quote: Originally posted by julia817:
Cinderella,
Im new on hear and just read your post. Im no expert and probably watched all the programms you have.
The thing is with these bed training is you have to be hard, you have to be calm and you have to be supported.
I would not give her the gameboy - could make her too hyped before bedtime - but a book is ok.
Secondly if she knock on your door (I am guessing the lounge or whatever - you have to take her back to bed - no eye contact, first time you have to say "back to bed please" nothing else, I would only say this for the first 5 times she gets up - after that say nothing.
dont enter into a conversation, ignore curtain problems etc etc need for drinks blah blah
everytime she gets up, take her back. It could take 100 times the first night- so you have to be tough and be consistent. I think shes of an age where a reward at the end of the week would be better - like if you go to bed with out a fuss for the whole week you will get a treat at the end of the week.
The thing is you have to be consistent - i know its hard. But once youve cracked it life will be sweet.
Good luck.
your right i was going to say something similar,i think the child only does the curtain etc things for attention good or bad attention,she isn't bothered as it is still attention.
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quote: Originally posted by treaclepud: Hello cinders, you know there are things you might have to look at like your little girl playing her gameboy before she goes to bed things like computers, tv and mobile phones occupy's the brain to which you cant sleep at night. Check out the foods and drinks as well which could make your little girl hyper as well. But if none of these things work then maybe you should lay the law down and take the things away she most likes and earns them back. You just have to go through the channels as see where there is a problem.
I agree with the computer games, I know with myself I have to come off here a good hour before I go to bed or I`m wide awake and my head is still on the go. My children have always had the last hour relaxing and watching tv and only having a glass of milk after tea. Its not a problem I`ve had because from day one, I made it clear there wasn`t going to be any mucking about at bedtime because the evenings were my time, so by the time they came out of the cot into a bed, I had it under control but I hope you soon get it sorted because its miserable, especially knowing you have that every night  |
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Hi
i don't know if you'll get this now, but I'm having the same problem, my daughter is also 7, but nothing seems to work, not even the charts.
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does she had tv in the bedroom? remove tv and computer games. make sure room dark. if they don't like the dark. add stars on the ceiling. and read bedtime story.
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quote: Originally posted by bubble999:
Hi
i don't know if you'll get this now, but I'm having the same problem, my daughter is also 7, but nothing seems to work, not even the charts.
Have you tried warm milk before bedtime? that sends me to sleep or a dvd half an hour before bed, that might make her sleepy too and she may not even see the end of the film, so long as she knows she stays in bed while its on |
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I've tried herbal tea for bedtime but that didn't work, i think if she was to watch dvd or video she would still stay awake, might try the warm milk.  |
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