when a child get smacked for pooing or wetting
himself or herself, what effect does smacking
have on the child for doing it even thought the
child did NOT do it on purpose so
why smack them?

Secondly, if a child defacate or urinate in a
display toilet in a shop selling bathroom
suites,what is the best way to tackle it.

laugh and point.

I wouldn't smack them if they did it by accident, I'd just say tell mummy or daddy or whatever you're with if you need to the toilet but even after kids cant always hold.

Never ever smack period

i dont think smackin is a bad thing, did me no harm i think when you smack them very hard intentionally to hurt them bad is wrong. i dont knw why people find it so bad.. they need disipline

I was smacked when young but could not stop laughing as i was scared so mum thought it did not hurt until in the end she would hit out too much and most of the time with items and all because i did not want her to know it hurt.Some times when people are angry thay dont realise the strenght thay lash out with.It starts of with a little tap!

Smacking is not the answer.Having raised my son on my own since the age of 4(now coming up to 18)I never considered smacking him as a form of punishment and I am glad of this fact as he has caused me no trouble at all over the years.

Smacking for bed wetting never helps, Sometimes a child can just be a heavy sleeper, Cutting down drinks after six, and toileting just before bed helps, but with one of mine, i had to wake him up, now and then and take him to the bathroom, sounds cruel, but was recommended. and in the end it worked.

i do believe that a smack for doing something wrong is ok plus when you look at children who have never had a smack you can tell the difference ,but i would not smack for wetting the bed or pants,when mine were small i used to remind them every so often as when they are playing or shopping they forget,and when i went to bed i used to lift them out to the toilet and they automatically wee without even waking up ,i never ever had a wet bed with all my children

I sort of agree with Flabby Babby but it is too easy to lash out in anger. We all think it is ok if we smack because we can control ourselves but how many times have you seen (other) people in the street hitting their kids with unnecessary violence and yelling at them. If you can discipline them in another way without hitting, than so much the better.

I don't think anyone should smack their children for wetting the bed, most of the time they can't help it.

My mum used to smack me, and I think that for doing something wrong then its alright to give a little tap but nothing that would hurt them!But not over something they can't help like wetting the bed.

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Originally posted by flabby babby:
i do believe that a smack for doing something wrong is ok plus when you look at children who have never had a smack you can tell the difference ,but i would not smack for wetting the bed or pants,when mine were small i used to remind them every so often as when they are playing or shopping they forget,and when i went to bed i used to lift them out to the toilet and they automatically wee without even waking up ,i never ever had a wet bed with all my children

Yes indeed you can tell the difference between smacked and unsmacked kids.



Unsmacked children don't think the solution to problems is raising your hand.

what ive seen of unsmacked children is they are usually uncontrollable brats

Message to all the parents out there... If your stupid kids make a lot of noise, dont just say 'shoosh'; introduce them to mr foot!

love it mr sqirrel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by Secret Squirrel:
Message to all the parents out there... If your stupid kids make a lot of noise, dont just say 'shoosh'; introduce them to mr foot!

or flabby babby by the sounds of it! LOL

nasty!!!!!!

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Originally posted by flabby babby:
what ive seen of unsmacked children is they are usually uncontrollable brats

I agree...My children are are lovely, well behaved individuals who have been smacked when needed in the past and I have to say that I can't remember the last time because they have learned that naughty is not acceptable.
BUT a level of understanding is also needed, I would NEVER smack them for an accident or something that they couldn't help.Talking to children and trying to learn why they do things is really, really important to both parent and child.
Act out of love not in anger.

I think smacking does have a place but it's a tough argument as responsible parents who smack will only "smack" not "hit". Parents who are not responsible and who couldn't really give a damn, will "hit" and harder than they should. No law will ever prevent his from happening, it will only stop responsible parents gaining control over their offspring.

I smacked my children if they did something deliberately naughty, NEVER for bed-wetting or similar. But I can probably count on one hand the times I had to smack either of my kids, my son (now 16) is a super lad, never gave me any bother and probably only ever received two or three smacks in his life. Daughter on the other hand, much naughtier, had a few more but never hard. She too has turned out lovely and it has not done either of them any harm what so ever.

A friend of mine has a young son, he has never received more than a soft tap on the back of his hand and a gentle "don't do that darling" as his mum does not agree with smacking, he is the worst behaved kid you'd ever wish to meet, he should have been smacked a couple of times to assert authority as now, his mother has no control what so ever! It will only get worse for her as he grows older.

I think if they cant control them selves at around 4 - 5 years, they deserve a good smack

Right in the chops... If the parents won't do it I will have to step in.

personnaly i do smack my children but not for accidents. i dont think a good smack ever hurt any one.

what do you do about a 45 yr old child, my partner is the biggest kid of all but a bit too big to smack. (I would like to really land one on him though!!!)
Trouble with smacking is that you can't teach children NOT to hit by hitting them.
What's the difference between hitting and smacking anyway?

I have never even told my children off for wetting the bed etc and all three have been clean day and night by the age of three and hardly ever wet the bed. They can't help it so why smack them?

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Originally posted by Clareycluck:
what do you do about a 45 yr old child, my partner is the biggest kid of all but a bit too big to smack. (I would like to really land one on him though!!!)
Trouble with smacking is that you can't teach children NOT to hit by hitting them.
What's the difference between hitting and smacking anyway?

LOL hey ive got the same problem. 3 kids, aged 2, 4 and 36!!! Hang in there, and keep smiling