hello,Im a new member and i've joined the forum for some more imput and hopefully advice if anyone has any for me.I have a 5 year old daughter who is currently under going tests for adhd and would like to know how others manage there childrens behaviour.My daughter is very hyperactive and unco-operative,she also is at a speech and language school as her speech is very poor for her age.hope someone has some useful tips for me.
Behaviour is a tricky one.. First..sit down & work out what behaviours you are unhappy with (if you only have one or two..wow). Second..You can't tackle all at once (without driving yourself nuts)..so pick the top one or two.. ie won't sit still at meal times or throws toys.. three..watch for 'clues'..sometimes there is a pattern or 'trigger' to X behaviour. Four..tricky as it depends on what it is..work out a set reaction & stick to it for a while to see if it works. Five.. IT doesn't work. Contact out reach worker for local schools who deals in this sort of thing or contact local special school & ask for advice. Some areas (not many due to budget cuts) have behaviour therapy teams you can ask (referals via GPs). Good Luck..
My child was diagnosed as Autistic in late '03 age just 2 and a half, at 2yrs old I was at crisis point - nothing I did was right, nothing that we ever did stimulated him, then Medical people tell me about all this. He also displays ADHD along with a Severe Delay in Speech and Communication, Learning Difficulties: He has been through various Therepies, each beneficial for his growth. He was a late baby and was to be induced, and a difficult baby to deliver a long labour, but was a healthy 8 pounder. Often I wonder if that was to blame, or if I was to blame. Early signs showed lack of eye contact, non responsive to 'voice', but loved spinning wheels. Later, 9mths he became mobile, I often say he ran before he walked, he did, and has never stopped sinse. As his personality grew, I saw and felt his frustration with communicating - running in circles, spinning around, when all around him other toddlers would make models or do painting, he showed Nil interest in anything or anyone. His mighty strength physically is overwhelming - he is a big boy, and bigger than all his class in height and stock. He doesnt know his own strength, but is learning and still, has no concept of fear. He is happy and extremely headstrong. In times of frustration or upset to routine or sudden gesture, I have to hold him, on the floor. Its a big hug/hold, ijncase he hurts himself, sometimes he can knock me off my feet. And quiet, I have learnt from the past shouting doesnt help but instead clear concise words - simple, I have all the time in the world for his calm. Yet, my own, Im hardly ever calm. Always two steps ahead and prepared for 3 back. Ive just watched two programmes tonight that have highlighted part of my families life and it has reaffirmed yet again that, it hasnt been easy, its been hard. But, with the help recieved, the support and understanding of other people. I dont feel so alone anymore, even if my son sometimes does, every child has their world. I exclude others who stare at my badly behaved boy, they become cardboard cutouts of Paddington Bear. Its not others fault they dont understand either, how can they tell? Please heavily excuse my wafflish-waffle. Keeping focused, and always allowing a different 'thought'.
Originally posted by becky101: hello,Im a new member and i've joined the forum for some more imput and hopefully advice if anyone has any for me.I have a 5 year old daughter who is currently under going tests for adhd and would like to know how others manage there childrens behaviour.My daughter is very hyperactive and unco-operative,she also is at a speech and language school as her speech is very poor for her age.hope someone has some useful tips for me.
Hi Becky. I found my sons Speech Therepist a great help. We work with some 'daily' routines with Pictures, so he knows what happening next. We alsodo a few 'signs' with our hands - but always reinforce the 'sign' with simple language.
Earlier in the year we introduced the "wait" card. Its only small and you can fit it in your bag. This helps when he displays headstrong Urgency without thought - I call it the antiflip card, becasue it does work. What I do with my own is very tailored to his specific needs. You might find my suggests wont work.
For approx 5mths, I have been giving him Omega3 Fish Oil (haliborange) I heard this through the grapevine at a seminar - from a parent! It helps towards concentration, and is healthy - especially if we get the "Im not eating anything" routine lol
I dont buy sweets. But my son likes the occassional ice cream or grapes, cherry toms or raisins. I avoid sweet and colourful crisp snacks too; Wotsits and Skips. He never has had a fizzy drink, but prefers water.
Originally posted by becky101: hello,Im a new member and i've joined the forum for some more imput and hopefully advice if anyone has any for me.I have a 5 year old daughter who is currently under going tests for adhd and would like to know how others manage there childrens behaviour. My daughter is very hyperactive and unco-operative,she also is at a speech and language school as her speech is very poor for her age.hope someone has some useful tips for me.
I come from a family with ADHD/High Functioning Autism.
I have tried Ritalyin, as an "ampyrical diagnosis" and I found it was like emerging from a fog, my head was remarkably clear and I could operate so much better.
Unfortunately Ritalybn is effectively an amphetamine and so it deprived me of sleep, which I cannot cope without. Besides, I don't like drugs, so I'd rather not take them.
I find a complex of all the Omega Fish oils (3,6 and 9) very beneficial, but I confess I only discovered this in the past 6 months, so I cannot vouch for long term.
Hi - my son also has adhd and the only thing that worked for him was medication, it was a last resort but i wished i had tried it earlier at the tender age of 6 - he is very intelligent and a real challenge but is doing very well at school now. You could try looking at 1-2-3 Magic! a behaviour programme book written by Thom PHelan - it also has a video - its a great behaviour management tool. Also understanding adhd by dr chris greene and shelly the hyperactive turtle (for your daughter) is good too good luck and dont discount medication if its offered, it really works well, is very safe and is worth a try
Behaviour is a tricky one..
