Please can you give me some advice on how to deal with my 7 year old daughter.
My husband of 11 years has decided he doesn't want to live with us anymore and my daughter (Holly)has taken it very bad. At first she seemed to be coping well and then all of a sudden has started to swear, make rude gestures with her fingers, pinch, punch, kick, threaten, draw on walls, empty shampoo bottles out, the list goes on. The only person she does this to is my 10 year old daughter (Sammy). I can understand that this is a sign of anger but don't know how to handle it. I have punished (which didn't feel the right thing to do), ignored and even just held her and told her how much I love her.This is totally out of character. She is such a good, loving little girl normally and I am totally thrown by her behaviour. Also Sammy gets cross with me as I don't punish and she can't understand (naturally)how she can get away with it. She also doesn't understand why she does it only to her and gets very upset. I have been to see my doctor about it and he has referred her to CAMS but there is such a waiting list I would appreciate it if you could steer me in the right direction in the meantime.
Many thanks Jo.

Jane Gandey

try looking up local play therapy schemes in your area and hen take the detais to your doctor to see if they can refer her to them. it seems that she isn't taking the split very well and may just need to talk about things with someone