the thing is when i was 7 i used to stay at my grandma's on weekends and my uncle lived there aswell even known he was 25. well when i went to bed at night my uncle would come in to my room and ask me if i wanted to see an elephant i must of said yes becasue he turned his pockets inside out and got his dick out. also when i wasnt in bed he would take me into the toilet which was like a small cupboard and get it out.

i am now 15 nearly 16 and cant stop thinking aboput it and wondering if it is true r is it my mind making it up. the worst thing is wondering if he went further with me and actually done anything to me. has anyone got any advice on what i should do.

p.s my uncle used to take drugs and only stoped last year but was disowned by my family for a bit for stealing from my grandma and lots of other places. but my family are starting to talk to him and he is living back with my grandma now and when i see him i get flash backs and find it hard to sleep wiht all the questions going on in my head about wot really happpened.
please help.

hi sweetie
i had a bad experience with an uncle when i was younger and now occasionly it comes back to me.

i know its no excuse but my uncle suffered a severe head injury when he was small leaving him a little bit mmmm slow.

you can go to the police about it even though it was a while ago.but if you dont want to and you think it would be a good idea to remember what happened you could try regression therapy they deal with this a lot.

i just want to say it was in no way your fault your uncle was very wrong to take advantage of you.

your mind blocks bad things out maybe its not wise for you to remember.i was about your age when the memories starting coming back but i pushed them to the back of my mind now i hardly ever think about what happened.and when i do i pity my uncle, im stronger, happier and better than he ever will be.

whatever you decide to do just remember your a good person you didnt ask for anything to happen to you and be strong.i hope you manage to sort your feelings out and stay strong.

I actually know 2 people this has happened to, one by an uncle and the other by a step father. It is sadly, far more common than we realise.

I think that it is vitally important that you confide in somebody you can trust, this is something that could affect your life and it would be good for you to talk to somebody who could help and support you and maybe go with you to see a counsellor. Not everyone thinks counselling is a good idea, and you may not either, but you need to talk to somebody, don't keep it to yourself as it will end up hurting you more.

One of the people I know never told anyone for years and then it got too much for them and they confided in friends and family. They're much more able to deal with their emotions now they have people to talk to about them.

You don't have to get your uncle to answer for his crime, if it makes you feel better, you can keep him anonymous. But sometimes it helps you to get past it if the person is made to pay. My friend didn't want to tell the authorities and they never have.

The most important thing for you to realise is that it was not your fault and don't be ashamed, there's nothing for you to be ashamed of.

Think of somebody responsible who you trust and you would feel more comfortable telling and then talk to them about it. Good luck.