still have problems with my eldest daughter who is nearly seven. She is still getting anxious as soon as it gets dark, doesn't want me to put out the rubbish, doesn't want me to leave her upstairs in bed and a neighbour worried me recently by saying this could manifest itself into some other problem when she gets older. I am thinking of trying the suggestion of a babymonitor in reverse to reassure her that I have not left the house, as suggested for my previous posting on this subject in September, but I think I will still have her calling out and getting upset. Whatsmore, I want her to feel secure, not just to allow me freedom to move around my house. Any suggestions would be appreciated. - especially Supernanny, if you are out there!!!!!

i dont think supper nanny will be here but erm.. she may just grow out of it baby monitor seems a good i idea but i just thought i would post coz no1 has posted bk to u

My daughter went though the same thing,It got to a point that she didnt want to go to school because she worried about me walking home on my own. Its very hard but you have got to let her see that your the mum and not let her mother you. At her bed time make a point of letting her see you lock up the house,just to end one anxiety. I put a radio in my daughters room and left the door open, i use the first hour of her bed time by poping up and down the stairs with washing and singing along to her radio while going in and out of the rooms. all the time she could hear me and she new i was happy she was ok. After a while she was asking me not to sing because she wanted to hear her song on the radio, your daughter will grow out of it, it just takes time. My way might not be for every one but it worked for us. GOOD LUCK.

thanks for both your help. I have now got to the route of the problem, she is OK when her dad is at home cus she can hear us talking. I am even allowed downstairs when he is here!!!!! I can see the radio thing singing along helping, but the problem is that her sister sleeps in the same room and gets very tired. I will sleep on this idea though, because I am sure that if I was heard, she would feel happy. Still happy to hear any other suggestions though in the meantime.