Hi, I have just found out i am pregnant and my partner has made it clear he would like me to have an abortion as we already have 2 young children and money is very tight. As i am so early on the one i could have is where i take tablets to induce a miscarriage. Can anyone out there who has been through this personally be kind enough to share with me what their experience was like and also how do they know it is all gone from the womb after the tablets have been taken - how do they check afterwards and when.
Thanks for anyone who helps me out
Much appreciated
X X X X X

Lots of kind thoughts heading your way x x
I believe that it's a bit of a postcode lottery as regards the tablet way of having a termination, you should talk to your G.P to find out your options. I have no idea about the technicalities I am afraid, your G.P is a good starting place.
Having friends who have been through this I can say prepare yourself for an emotional time because whilst this can be the 'right' thing to do it can still be a difficult thing to do.
xx Is this something that you are both deciding to do?You must be sure you both want to do this.
Really big hugs and good wishes.

What do you WANT?

What a decision to have to make, I hope things work out for you.

get some life insurance cover on your partner....

then make him have a fatal "accident" ( dont get caught tho )

and then live like a queen on the dividends and find someone that appretiates the give of life that you've been blessed with.

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Hi Missy,

I agree with Melliemum - is this abortion something you BOTH want? Or do you feel your partner is putting unnecessary pressure on you? to do this?

This is a hell of a decision for you to have to make - PLEASE don't do it until you are absolutely sure that is what you BOTH want.

Wishing you all the luck in the world - bless you.

Hi to everyone and thanks for peeps help/support in this matter - It is not really what i want to do and so am giving my partner some breathing space before he essentially expects me to do something i dont want to do as that would end up splitting us up. I really think he is just worried about our financial situation as times are hard but hopefully he will rationalise things in his head and it will all work out in the end.
Hopefully i will come back in a few weeks and tell everyone that everything is fine and we are going to have an addition to our young family.
Thanks to all, Best wishes Chrissie xxXXxx

I wish you all the best, Chrissie.

I hope that you both reach a decision you are happy and comfortable with.. Like you say, you both need some breathing space to think about what to do.

My husband and I are in a financial situation where having a child would be a disaster, but I know that if it were to happen to us, we would find a way through. I hope that this comes true for your and your partner.

xxxx

If an abortion is right for you, then go for it! Whatever is best for you and you partner in life is what is most improtant... dont allow any outside pressure with stupid comments like you'll find a way to cope and gift of life!

There are also charities that may be able to give you support (BPAS, Marie Stopes etc). You can find them on the web.

Hi there. My take is that this is a decision you will need to be able to live with for the rest of your life whatever you choose now. i know people who have made the decision to have an abortion in too much of a hurry and have been surprised by the length of time feelings of regret and what if.. say with them. Well done for seeking advice and thinking it through - it doesn't seem like you have an easy option. Keep asking for advice information and support from those around you and the medical staff whichever decision you take and I hope you will be at peace with what you decide. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Hiya, I am back again and thankfully i have good news. We are going ahead with the pregnancy (which is a huge weight off my mind!!) and i would like to thank the people who took the time to reply to my plea and thank you for your kind words of support.
So we will have 3 children come July all being well and i think i may have to rethink my contraception method after that!!
Merry Christmas Everyone

love Chrissie x x x

Excellent news!! HAPPY CHRISTMAS to you and your family, missycrissy

Hiya, Back again - well unfortunately it is bad news. I miscarried this afternoon so it looks like our addition is not meant to be. I have 2 beautiful healthy children already which is much more than some people are blessed with so i will have then to think about and we will enjoy Christmas Day tomorrow for their sakes.
Many thanks again to everyone and hope you all have a Merry Christmas
Best Wishes
Love Chrissie x x x

Aaaah Missy, so sorry..... ((((((missycrissy))))))


Take it easy, please!

Let your partner take care of you. Very sad for you, but I am sure you will get through ok with your families love. Thinking of you, chick.

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Originally posted by lisagotnoshame:
Aaaah Missy, so sorry..... ((((((missycrissy))))))


Take it easy, please!

Let your partner take care of you. Very sad for you, but I am sure you will get through ok with your families love. Thinking of you, chick.

Hi There, Thanks very much for your well wishes. Seems theres no-one talking about thses things on here so i cant get in touch with others who have been through the same thing. I still feel numb and its been just over 1 week since it happened (feel slightly guilty as i have 2 beautiful healthy children but i cant help feel someone has taken something of mine and they had no right to). Seeing the new year in was hard as as soon as the clocks struck midnight i just had urge to burst out crying as something was missing from our new year that should have been part of it.
Anyway, i will try not to dwell on it and only hope that our new year is better than end of the last one - we will try again but firstly will make sure there are no problems the doctors can rule out as really wouldnt want to go through that again.
Happy New Year to you hun and thanks again for your welll wishes.
Take care
Chrissie x x x

Missy...

I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am to hear your news - what a horrible start to 2007 for you all. I'm crying for ya, hon.

Grieve, cry, work it out of your system.. I lost a nephew to still-birth a few years ago, and I do have some idea of how you are feeling. Just keep that little person alive in your mind, and never forget that they were and still are real, and a part of you all. I also suspect that I had a miscarriage just before Christmas too, but I will never know...

Just love each other, talk to us, and don't be afraid to grieve..

Hugging you hard.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh Missy, I am so sorry for your loss.

It's hard to find the right words to say to you...
please know that you are in my thoughts...big hugs...Mm

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Originally posted by missycrissy:
Hiya, Back again - well unfortunately it is bad news. I miscarried this afternoon so it looks like our addition is not meant to be. I have 2 beautiful healthy children already which is much more than some people are blessed with so i will have then to think about and we will enjoy Christmas Day tomorrow for their sakes.
Many thanks again to everyone and hope you all have a Merry Christmas
Best Wishes
Love Chrissie x x x

I`m so sorry to hear your sad news, especially just before Christmas, it seems harder at times like that, my oldest Sons partner lost a baby Boxing Day a few years ago but they now have a beautiful three year old, I wish you luck in the future

Missy, Thanks for replying and I hope you're taking care of yourself? If you need to talk to people going through similar as you, why not try a forum on Miscarriage? If you Google you will find several groups that may offer you support. I have had a look on them and they seem pretty supportive and friendly. Lots of Love to you.xxxxxx

((((missy))))

Sorry to hear about your bad news missy, i do know what your gong through because i suffered a miscarriage last year i was three months gone, its been three months now, and i was due around the 18th of march same day as my other halfs belated mum. I am hoping this year to fall preganant again this year. If you ever need a chat i am always about in the evening.

I wish you well Missy treacs. xxxxx

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Originally posted by treaclepud:
Sorry to hear about your bad news missy, i do know what your gong through because i suffered a miscarriage last year i was three months gone, its been three months now, and i was due around the 18th of march same day as my other halfs belated mum. I am hoping this year to fall preganant again this year. If you ever need a chat i am always about in the evening.

I wish you well Missy treacs. xxxxx

Hi Treacs,,,, thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear that you went through the same awful thing. Can i please ask how do you feel now 3 months later. I feel like people think its done so get on with it (not that they mean to be nasty), but every day i suddenly remember and it hurts. Its almost like it was never there but it was. I would like to try as soon as we can but am so worried that it happens again. I was very lucky with our first 2 children i just sailed through the pregnancies (even though i was huge with them both i loved it) so a miscarriage was not even something i had thought of ever happening,,,,but obviously now i'm worried that i will be so stressed about it happening again that the stress will be no good for me.
Son is back at school tomorrow and i feel like everything just has to go back to the way it ws but a big part of me is missing something.
I wish you all the luck in the world with your next pregnancy, fingers n toes crossed for you
Love and hugs Chrissie x x x

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Originally posted by missycrissy:
Hi, I have just found out i am pregnant and my partner has made it clear he would like me to have an abortion as we already have 2 young children and money is very tight. As i am so early on the one i could have is where i take tablets to induce a miscarriage. Can anyone out there who has been through this personally be kind enough to share with me what their experience was like and also how do they know it is all gone from the womb after the tablets have been taken - how do they check afterwards and when.
Thanks for anyone who helps me out
Much appreciated
X X X X X

going back to your original post, your partner was dead set against it, then you decided to go ahead, but needed to revise your contraception options, you miscarried, but want another one as soon as poss

instead of getting pregnant first then talking the other half around, why not have serious talks with boyfriend/hubby before you put youselves and your body through all this again.. i dont know you but feel by your posts you are not in the right mind set to have more children!

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Originally posted by Jester!!:

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Originally posted by missycrissy:
Hi, I have just found out i am pregnant and my partner has made it clear he would like me to have an abortion as we already have 2 young children and money is very tight. As i am so early on the one i could have is where i take tablets to induce a miscarriage. Can anyone out there who has been through this personally be kind enough to share with me what their experience was like and also how do they know it is all gone from the womb after the tablets have been taken - how do they check afterwards and when.
Thanks for anyone who helps me out
Much appreciated
X X X X X

going back to your original post, your partner was dead set against it, then you decided to go ahead, but needed to revise your contraception options, you miscarried, but want another one as soon as poss

instead of getting pregnant first then talking the other half around, why not have serious talks with boyfriend/hubby before you put youselves and your body through all this again.. i dont know you but feel by your posts you are not in the right mind set to have more children!

Hi, Firstly i would not be getting pregnant first before talking to my partner!!! - my first post regarding my partner-well he actually came around (i did not decide to go ahead on my own as it was a joint decision-thats what the partnership is about) and he said he never was really against it but was just worried about our financial situation (which he al