Our daughter has just started secondary school. Her behaviour at home has changed for the worse. She can be sullen, moody and quite rude sometimes. We know that her tiredness is affecting her behaviour as secondary school is a big change for her but we need to nip things in the bud. The usual discipline stategies such as the naughty step or other sanctions don't really apply at this age. Any advice?
When our daughter started secondary, the same applied, she just took a while to adjust to the new social scene and the politics of the whole thing. We helped by making time outside of school as interesting and distracting as possible so that she always felt safe and secure at home. If she ever had a bad day, we were there for her and always encouraged her to talk to us and to participate in activities that would make her more independant and prepared for the big bad world.
Unfortunately, our lovely girl (16 years old)was killed this year, during the summer holidays in a car crash and I take great heart in knowing how happy, carefree and hopeful she was and that we had a house where raised voices were unheard of and hugs were (& still are) the norm everyday.
I have a 20 week old baby and will try to make her feel like the same solid, happy, hopeful girl by using support and cuddles in abundance.
My daughter started secondary school in Sept, I've noticed she's very tired she falls asleep on sofa at weekends we've had a few hissy fits she was so tired her calculator fell on toe in a fit she threw in the bin I sent her to bedshe was fine the next day. Its such a big change and the homework!!! support her as much as you can , give her time relax and have time away from homework, make sure she does as soon as she gets home then she can relax as soon as its finished, If she's good bribbery works, shopping trips, cinema with her friends and right to withdraw these treats and banning Heroes& Ugly Betty works too. My son who now is YR10 had hissy fits too, we set boundries withdrawl of his beloved PS2 worked, being sent to bed early works. It quite normal behavour.
Me too I don't what to put in to words all this rubbish about on this forum about about which methods best, You've put everything back into prospective.
Hi, being a teenager my self [16] I know what its like going through secondary school. Afterall it was only a few years ago i was there myself. I was exactly the same, tired, stressed. Its the excitement of a new school and everything all coming at the same time. Give it time and she will settle down. The best thing I think you can do it support her, ask her to go to ber earlier, If she needs help wth homewrk ETC. Hope this helps.!
