Well done Matt and Vicky from a very happy routine family too. No one said it was going to be easy but it does pay off in the end. I knew from the first programme the 50's routine would get results. My two girls were both sleeping from 10 -6 from 6 weeks old and were outside most of the day from a few days old and weaned at 16 weeks. Routine is important and kids need it too. People are very narrow minded and very opinionated.

I do think that leaving your baby to cry goes against your instincts as a mother. I did feel very upset watching babies cry just so you can have a great schedule.

My first daughter had colic when she was born probably due to separation from me when she was born resulting from her being rushed to the cardic unit.

Her consant crying upset me to the point of distres. I did used to go down to the bottom of the gardent to tell my little angle to shut up. I still wonder why my neighbours didnt call social services on me. I would then return lovelly and carm and start off by saying 'mummy loves you darling, now where were we' I would then pick her up, carry her around, and try and comfort her. Till I next needed to go down the bottom of the garden to scream. I must add that my husband did do his share of rocking but not so much screaming at the bottom of the garden.

However after a few days my daughter did carm down and settle into her own routine. I could not have left my daugher for periods of screaming (apart from to protect me and her in letting out my angusih at the bottom of the garden). I did read up on colic and it did say to give them more security and not less and it did pay off in the end and my daughter is now happy and secure.

Again I had the same with my second daughter but only short periods of crying at the begining and again I gave her more hugs and comfort. She now goes to sleep in her own room from 7pm till 7am and only occasionally wakes for a short b/f at just 3 months old. I did keep my daughter in bed and her mosses basket for the first 8 weeks until she settled into our house.

I believe babies need to be loved and fed on demand. I think they need to feel secure before you give them routines and they seem to set their own routines.

I would worry about controlled feeding and sleeping as my babies (even the 3 year old) seem to need different things on a day to day basis. If they go through growth spurts, or if something has scared them as just a two examples. I do wonder how these parents are going to deal with older children. As my three year old would not appreciate a late night party in the house. In fact I need to have the t.v turned down when I go to sleep before my husband.

I think as a person living in a household you need to be respecful of those living in the house what ever their age.

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Originally posted by avril1012:
People are very narrow minded and very opinionated.

hahahaha pot kettle black! If you think sleeping through is measurement of successful parenting you seriously need to think a bit more and be less narrowminded. Forcing routine, leaving them to cry, limiting affection, controlling the basic need for food to manage "behaviour" is an appalling, disgusting and damaging way of treating babies.
You clearly don't know, or don't want to know, about the damage caused. As long as you have your trained babies nothing else matters!