I found last night's show really very interesting. Being a mother of a singleton and triplets, I was particularly interested to see how multiples would be managed under the various regimes. Personally I've applied some of every method at different stages and that's because I've listened to my instincts throughout.
I found it somewhat disturbing the 1950s hands-off regime as I don't beieve that all babies are born as attention seeking fiends who should be bent to your every will, as apperared to be implied. I do however admit to loving the consistency and structure of the methods, as I believe that babies thrive on predictability and routine.
1970s methods appear absolutely fine for one baby, but what about more than one? I can only breast feed 2 at a time, so what happens to the one who can't get a feed when it wants? All this on-tap nonsense is just that. All that is happening is that the mother's breasts are being used as a permanent dummy - not something that anyone should advocate. How are you supposed to work out what it really wants if it is permanently stuck to your chest? My husband already feels alienated by my brestfeeding triplets, I don't think we'd ever have sex again if they were permanently part of our bedding! What about continuing relationships with others?
I think what is lacking in the programme is basic mother's insticts. All babies are different. Out of my triplets, I have an independent one, touchy feely one and somewhere inbetween. My singleton probably drifts between all 3 states, depending on his mood. Surely you've got to just work out how to get to know your own baby?
Hear! Hear! Think you've said it all. I agree with you entirely. Every child is different I have a sensitive one who's needs a lot of reassurance and an easygoing carefree one who doesn't have a care in the world and their needs are very different, rely on your instincts and your halfway there. My kids were never once in my bed and have always had a routine in their lives - children thrive on this. All in all do what you think is best
Originally posted by abi3: I found last night's show really very interesting. Being a mother of a singleton and triplets, I was particularly interested to see how multiples would be managed under the various regimes. Personally I've applied some of every method at different stages and that's because I've listened to my instincts throughout.
I think the 1960s Dr Spock method promotes mother's instinct. After all the first line in the book is 'trust your instinct - you know more than you think you do'. I took part in the programme and followed Dr Spock and listened to my instinct and it does work! I have a happy, contented 9 month old baby who is 'showered with love' and cuddles every day.
I found it somewhat disturbing the 1950s hands-off regime as I don't beieve that all babies are born as attention seeking fiends who should be bent to your every will, as apperared to be implied. I do however admit to loving the consistency and structure of the methods, as I believe that babies thrive on predictability and routine.
1970s methods appear absolutely fine for one baby, but what about more than one? I can only breast feed 2 at a time, so what happens to the one who can't get a feed when it wants? All this on-tap nonsense is just that. All that is happening is that the mother's breasts are being used as a permanent dummy - not something that anyone should advocate. How are you supposed to work out what it really wants if it is permanently stuck to your chest? My husband already feels alienated by my brestfeeding triplets, I don't think we'd ever have sex again if they were permanently part of our bedding! What about continuing relationships with others?
I think what is lacking in the programme is basic mother's insticts. All babies are different. Out of my triplets, I have an independent one, touchy feely one and somewhere inbetween. My singleton probably drifts between all 3 states, depending on his mood. Surely you've got to just work out how to get to know your own baby?
