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quote: Originally posted by pigletmania:
Of course Sex Education should be taught I am not saying that it should not, but the content and the way in which is delierved I disagree with. I heard on the same programe that I watched called 'Big Questions' last Sunday of two 11 year old girls who were approached by Sex Educaition outreach workers, they were taken to a outreach bus and shown how to use a condom and how to please their boyfriend. When they said that they were too young and did not feel it was needed, the worker told them its for in case they decide to have sex in the future.
At school i had Sex Ed, condoms were shown as were different types of contraceptives and a video of a couple copulating (much to our amusement) However what was not highlighted was the importance of meaningful relationships, and how to resist peer pressure, and that it was ok to say 'no'. Because I was brought up in a Christian way I decided that sex was not for me until I met a loving man and that I would wait until I was older.
I know that we do not live in cloud couckoo land, there will be youngsters who will have sex and they have to know how to do it safely. Incidently, my husband is Maltese, it is a country which is greatly influenced by religion and the family, I think that they have a very low incidences of teen pregnancy. It is a smaller Country though so that might also influence things.
This is a subject that is divided and I don't think that everyone will agree on everything.
Which is pretty much what I've been saying: that sex education should be fully comprehensive, all-encompassing: including all issues related to sex rather than what I would term the basics (pregnancy etc). The emotional side needs to be addressed. Again this is something done much more in other countries, which tend to have lower rates of teen pregnancy and STD's Also whilst it's obviously important to talk about sex in terms of relationships, sex outside of relationships shouldn't be seen so negatively. To me the main message we should be giving teenagers is not that they necessarily have to be in love to have sex with someone; but to be absolutely sure that they WANT to have sex, that they are emotionally READY for sex, and that they are mature enough to practice SAFE sex. It is possible for people to enjoy sex out of relationships; I think if I had only had sex with my current partner then perhaps now I'd be wondering about what it'd be like to have a fling. As far as I'm concerned I would hope that teenagers AND adults having sex are doing so because they want to, and not because they feel pressure from peers or the opposite sex; are doing so using the proper precautions and fully understanding and being able to deal with the risks; and are enjoying the experience If someone wants to sleep with 50 people that's fine IMO; as long as they are happy with that and are being safe. |
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Exactly, what adult's do is entirely their business, if they want to sleep with 50+ people than its their porogative, I don't entirely agree with it but its their life. As long as they are careful, and use contraception always thank fine.
Yes I do agree that we should be teaching teens about waiting until their absolutely ready, and not doing so because they feel pressure or the odd one out. I think that those real life baby dolls are a great idea in Sex Education. They are dolls which are programmed to be like babies, teens take them home to see how it would be like to have a real life baby. Apparently they are quite effective, and have put girls off the idea of having a baby until they are older.
I have a 10 month baby, married with my own house, and 30 years old, it is hard work, but even harder if you are a teenage girl with mabey no partner, no money and your career dreams are over.
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Oh, yes, at last!
I don't know where to start as I have been trying to get on here for days.
All I can say is, sex ed is a lesson in life, we should all be taught the facts, and how to stay safe, and I think by 16 every child should know about contraception for definate, and what can happen if they do not protect themselves.
We have to admit, children will all strive to know what others know.
Teenagers and adults should all be on the same level.
I understand the pre-16 years of age it si illegal, and i'm certain that schools do not encourage sex before that age, I am certain they do not encourage it at all.
They just teach pupils how to be safe.
Unfortunatly, we xan choose not to educate them in the matter, keep then in after 9 at night, stop then watching tv that is a bad influence. But none of this will stop them having sex.
Even the most well brought up children will never turn out the way we expect tham too, we can only do our best. And what we think is right.
I feel that by not education a child about sex, is simply trying to hold them back, and stop them growing up.
There is no age you can put on a child becoming mature enough to undesrand sex, or undertake in sex either, when they are ready, they are ready. A parent cannot stop that. Just understand it.
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I havent read all the posts but just wanted to say that i think the younger children learn the facts of life the better. I have a four year old and i bought a book about it recently, it was appropriate for his age. He had been asking me questions as a friend of mine was pregnant, like how does the baby get in there, so i told him using the book and he asked more questions when we read it, which i answered. I am not at all embarrassed about talking to him about sex in a factual way just giving him the info he can understand at the moment and more as he gets older. I believe in being totally honest and open with kids, it doesnt frighten them to know facts and it will mean when they are older they will have all the facts/info they need to make informed choices and they will be more likely able to talk to you about things easier.
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I agree with you LJMcc the earlier they understand the betterr.
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I think a parents job is to educate your children with as much knowledge as is humanly possibly, I take every opportunity I can to explain things to my child, I feel the more she knows the better she will cope with what life has to throw at her. Sex education is no different, it's a natural thing and there is no reason to deny your children knowledge of it.
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At the end of the day... sex seems to be the oone and only thing that everyone on the planet has in common, and all of us will do it at somepoint. So learning about it is a very important part of growing up. Learning about it is a way of helping yourself from staying safe.
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I teach Reception class and am currently pregnant. Many of the children are curious about the baby and it has brought up some interesting questions. However, as far as sex education in my school goes, children are taught at 4 and 5 that boys and girls are different (this is part of the PSHCE curriculum), and taught to respect the differences between themselves and others.
To get back to the original post, I think there is a lack of clarity about what 'sex education' means in the early years. We're certainly not telling them how to have sex!
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I think that is a lot of the confusion, children are not being taught how to have sex, just how to be safe when they do it. Not to enjoy it and talk about reationships. At 5 years of age, the thought of even sitting next to a girl is a big enough no no! lol.
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I agree with barbie that people mature at different ages, and that some people are mature enough to have sex under the age of 16.
I think that sex ed should be compulsory in all schools, it doesnt encourage people to have sex at all, if anything, it puts them off it! I think it is necessary for teenagers to know about the risks of sex, and about contraception. I also think giving out contraception to under 16's is a good thing because at the end of the day, if they want to have sex, they will so it's better to be safe.
At the end of the day, sex education is a good thing and although many people disagree with it, if it didnt exist, teenage pregnancy and STD rates would be much higher.
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Exactly if they wanna do it, they will do it.
BETTER TO HAVE YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER USE PROTECTION, THAN GET AN STD OR STI, OR BETTER STILL, BE A MUMMY OR DADDY IN 9 MONTHS TIME!!
That is more mature than using nothing and hoping for the best.
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