My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years and I am expecting our first child. We have no interest in being married, we are not religious in any way.. Should baby have my surname or his? We had always planned on baby having his surname but a friend told me this isnt always the case.. what do you suggest?
My boyfriend and I are always disagreeing over this. I say that if we're not married then there is no reason why the child should have his name - he gets quite offended!
quote:Originally posted by Tuffie: My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years and I am expecting our first child. We have no interest in being married, we are not religious in any way.. Should baby have my surname or his? We had always planned on baby having his surname but a friend told me this isnt always the case.. what do you suggest?
There are no rules Tuffie, it's a personal thing. Do you want to give the baby your boyfriend's surname?
"That's right. I got your number, id boy. Only thing you're thinking about is how long before you can jump on my bones".
Choose its first name first, then whichever surname goes best with it, that way you can avoid the baby ending up with rubbish initials like B.U.M. or P.O.O.
quote:Originally posted by Llama: My boyfriend and I are always disagreeing over this. I say that if we're not married then there is no reason why the child should have his name - he gets quite offended!
we yeah i can see his point i thin i would be a little bit offended 2
but to slove the proble use both of your names obviously depending what you names are depend which order you put them in
It's traditional to have the fathers surname but it's totally up to you. My mate gave her son her surname and as it was she later split with his father so it was easier that she had.
We gave my son his fathers surname and then later we married so we didn't end up having to change it.
You never know, you may feel different about getting married once you have the baby. It doesn't have to be religious in any way.
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Me and Himself aren't married, and our girl has my name as a surname and his as one of her middle names (there's no - in between, just simply one of her middle names).
Yeah, I think it's all about personal choice. I had a friend at school who had a double barrelled surname, because when her mum and dad got married, her mum didn't want to change her name. When the parents later split up, the kids just stopped using the dad's surname (which was the last half of the double barrelled bit)and the family was all the same
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An unmarried couple can only use the fathers surname if he is present when you register the child. That is the only rule I know of, other wise it's up to you both to choose.
I had a double-barrelled surname and dropped it when I left home because it caused me nothing but grief and embarrassment in my early years(not that the names were embarrassing just the whole double-barrelled things).
People read things into d-b names just like they do when you use Ms as your title.
I was laughed at throughout school by my peer group, never heard the names spoken without a "faux" posh voice. kids, teachers and non-family adults alike saw it as some badge denoting stuck up little snob. I often heard other kids parents in corners make comments involving words like pretentious, must think they're a cut above, etc (having never had a two word conversation with I or my parents; just having been introduced to them by someone using my full name). I used to dread morning register, just because I knew it'd be the same; my name gets called and then the kids in my class would pull their snidey little faces and poke fun.
For years I never used my surnames when introducing myself (always just first name and, if necessary, the prevalent nickname at the time).
Do think of that when you decide whether to honour yourself or your other half or both by choice of surname.
Bottom line...I doubt any baby really cares what name it has, so long as it grows up loved but do be sensitive to other people's stupid potential to make stupid jugdements about a person based on a name format.
But as an ex-d-b surname holder, I hated every minute of it and wished my parents had just settled on either one until I was old enough to make a choice for myself (when I was able to understand people's silly preconceptions about the importance of names).
Deed poll is cheap enough if it really matters to a person.
my partner and i have no interest in being married at all and he agreed that our son would take my surname (as his is comical) that was until we got to the registry office! we decide to double barrel it but he is mainly known with my surname as people dont say the whole thing, and this is fine by me as if we ever did get married i would double barrel my name (or make him take mine )
Choose its first name first, then whichever surname goes best with it, that way you can avoid the baby ending up with rubbish initials like B.U.M. or P.O.O.
ya rite der ma neice has got i.p.lowe wich is i pee low we gt loads vo we gt j.lowe=j.lo g.lowe=glow m.e.lowe=melow b.lowe= below, blow not funi wen a gt blow below itz totaly up2 ya init ma bro 2 kids r avin 2 ave ma broz name n der mums new partners name in der name aint on a no barker-lowe gr8!!
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itz totaly up2 ya init ma bro 2 kids r avin 2 ave ma broz name n der mums new partners name in der name aint on a no barker-lowe gr8!!