please help when my 11 month old neice comes to my house my 2 year old daughter wont sare her toys she knocks her over and pulls her hair she seems to hate it when she comes and says go home i put her on the naughty step put that only works for so long she has also started saying shut up i think she has picked it up from her 19 year old sister and her 8 year old brother argueing so i put her on the naughty step which only works for so long any ideas

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Maybe get the older ones to set an example for her? if she has picked it from them as you think, maybe a 'staged' interaction between her siblings showing her that you have more fun by sharing and less fun when you dont.

Just my suggestion, i dont know weather you will able to get your older children to co-operate or not.

Either that or take her to toddler groups a couple of times a week so she has chance to play with lots of kids she would learn naturally in that kind of situation.

Dear jenstar. she already goes to toddlers club twice a week were some kids are getting told of for not shareing thanks for your reply kaytime

around this time jus use the santa threat

Your daughter is 2. Don't expect her to share too much right now. If your niece is a regular, one suggestion would be to have toys for her already at your house or have her mother/father bring a few of her toys with her.

Your daughter needs to have toys that are hers only. You can also have toys for both of them, preferably sets or group toys. That alone may settle her down enough to actually be able to play with her cousin better.

Now for the "shut-up" part, you need to deal with your older children first. It's hard to punish a 19-year-old, but she should absolutely know better. Your 8-year-old can be punished easier. Make your home a "shut-up" free zone. If you have to, get a jar where anyone who says it must pay a fine--parents included. Deal with your youngest by telling her sternly "No. Bad words" and then getting her to do something else. The naughty chair should be for more serious infractions such as hurting others.

Good luck.

theBob

to the bob thanks for your advice i will try it soon kaytime

im a pre-school/nursery nurse. your child is 2 yrs old and she is discovering life at the moment, i assure you that this is a phase typical of her age, we call it age and stage of development, your child is no different from any other child of the same age, this is all a part of her learning social skills, when she is in company of other children try to organise a game that needs two or more to play, for example like give them a small bowl of water and 2 dollies so that they can bath/wash them feed them and so on, or let them ice biscuits and decorate them together, ease her into activities were she is unwittingly and willingly sharing and praise her highly for it, she will eventually realise that she can have more fun playing with others rather than on her own. when she says shut up to people say oh thats not nice and walk away from her and ignore her, until she can say something nice. but persevere with her she doesnt know that she is being rude or anti social as this is a skill that needs to be learnt she is not the first and wont be the last, as i said its normal behaviour for her age and stage of her development

to carol22 thanks for all ideas i will try it soon