I'd like to be reassured that my family isn't the only one with various people not speaking to each other. Do you ever get over it?
My mum and my sister don't speak and my cousins don't speak to each other. My dad doesn't get on with his sister and didn't speak to her for a while....and so on.
Lots of members of my family don't speak to each other. My family seems quite complicated. My brother married our stepsister. They now don't speak to my Mum or Stepdad. They have 3 children now how have never met their Grandparents. I speak to my mum but not my Dad. I do wish we could all get on. My Dads not allowed to contact me because his wife has forbidden him to. I wish i had a normal happy family who all got on.
Worry not. I do not speak to my brother, and my mother in law does not speak to me, my husband or kids. Its just human nature. I too know loads of families like this. It is the norm, not the exception. Think of the money you are saving on Christmas cards.
Originally posted by Rimu: just because they're your family doesn't mean you have to love them.
Thank you. I posted a similar thread a few months ago which should still be on this board somewhere.
'Normal' is a very subjective word anyway, which is why I hate it. Let's just say that feuding families are by no means uncommon.
I no longer speak to my father and am currently watching my parents undergo a separation as predictably, he has pushed my mother away too. Fortunately my mother and me are still very close and now live in the same city and see each other often.
It is a very strange concept in my humble opinion, that we should automatically love someone just because we were born without choice into their family. Who says you have to love your father just because he's your father? And so on.
I wouldn't worry about this too unduly. Love and respect has to be earned, and if you don't feel someone has earned yours, regardless or not of who they are, you have to do whatever's best, even if that means estranging yourself from them if it brings you some relief.
dnt worry out ma whole family i only speak to ma mum dad n sis, n hav hav loadsa cuzin n a brother so its normal for me n i prefer it tht way, ya can choose ya friends not ya family
Originally posted by little_bird: I'd like to be reassured that my family isn't the only one with various people not speaking to each other. Do you ever get over it?
My mum and my sister don't speak and my cousins don't speak to each other. My dad doesn't get on with his sister and didn't speak to her for a while....and so on.
Is this normal?!!!
Yes. My son does not speak to me, his dad or his sister. I don't speak to his wife. My husband doesn't speak to any of his family.
No, I think its quite normal. My dads brother and his dad never spoke for 10 years and only started speaking to each other at my brothers wedding last september.
Also my mum fell out with one of my aunts for 3 years. And my mums father hasn't kept in touch with any of his 4 kids including my mum.
With my partners family also, which is more complicated as his parents are from big families and seperated, there are lots of different family members which don't speak.
Discovered at a family funeral that my cousin is not speaking to me! Childish. I have had a problem with her mother [my Aunt] in the past but my cousin doesn't know what was said and done and it's none of her business anyway!
I no longer see much of my brothers and that suits us all just fine.
When we are in the same room we will say hello but I don't linger near them for any conversation - I don't particularly like them or their wives! My nephews and nieces are great but I only see them at parties. It was different when they were all children as I saw quite a bit of them in those days but we are all adults now with our own lives.
As someone said, saves a fortune on silly Christmas presents!!
**Just wants to pass some time without any hassle**
My mam&dad live in the same house but have not spoken for years i live their too my dad has a girlfriend and my mam might have a boyfriend but she doenst tell me their getting a divorce also my granny lives in the house and me my dad and brother do not speak to her as she is a bad person!!!
I didn't speak to my mum for 6 months before leaving home and we had another fall out when i had my oldest but i got to thinking (and some confidence back) when i was about 24 and decided she's the only mum i'm ever going to have and wrote a letter to her. We live far enough apart that we're not in each others pockets but we know where each other are if needed and see each other regularly. My parents have been great since my ex and i split up, can't fault them. Couldn't live with her but i love her. I'm sure she feels the same way.
My mum and dad split up when i was a wee nipper, hav'nt seen me mum since (her choice) dad got remarried couple of years later. Stepmum thru me sis out when she was a teenager, dad hasn't seen her since (i'm still in touch with sis). Few years ago told stepmum what i thought of her - she's really not a very nice person - and dad has'nt spoken to me since. Sometimes things work out for the better tho as me and me sis both have better lives now and i figure its me dad's loss if he does'nt wanna know.
I find that people that don't speak to each other are usually the ones who go about panicking about everything and getting in a strop, for no other reason than because they have spent so much time messing about that they are almost constantly late.
Its normal for members of a family to fall out with each other, i'm sure every family does it!
I have a massive family, loads of aunties, uncles, cousins etc and theres always some who aren't speaking to others! I hate going to family parties because of it but ya just have to try and keep out of it! Most of the time its over the stupidest things!
Its so sad though isnt it? When families dont get along? I to have just decided to stay out of contact with my mother, father and sister. They all seem to have thereown problems right now at 40 +4 week pregnant i can do without theit pathetic arguments. Does anyone ever find that they keep getting dragged back into everything?? I moved out at 17yrs old and since then have felt like mother is constantly on the phone and draggin me back into their arguments and consequently depressing and annoying me??!!
Its so sad though isnt it? When families dont get along? I to have just decided to stay out of contact with my mother, father and sister.
