My daughter is 3 and a half, she goes to bed at 7.30pm, she'll have a drink of milk before bed, but when i put her in her bed she just refuses to go to fall asleep until about 10pm, even when i read her a book and sing her a goodnight song, the other thing is that i always find her in my bed by the time i go to bed, i can't use a stairgate on her or my bedroom door as she has learnt to climb over it, and she has hurt herself doing this already, i've tried shutting her door but she is scared when this happens and screams, i usually leave the hall light on. i'm at the end of my tether and it has made me cry at times, what am i doing wrong? Does anyone have any tips, please, i'd be so grateful.

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It'll take time definitely and persistance.
If she has a nap at all, cut that out. Till she gets the idea of it put her to bed later at first, and completely tire her out. Completely to the point where she can't argue for falling asleep!
Establish the routine you wish to follow. Bring it forward bit by bit when she gets the idea of the routine back to being at 7.30pm.
Change the hall light for a little nightlight.
Buy/choose a little book. Always end on this and say "the end" firmly then "all read, tuck tuck" to have a signal it's time for bed. Do not have a conversation with her during putting back to bed.
It's better to have a gate but otherwise it's waiting in the hallway to put her back!! When she gets out and comes to the door close it when she gets there. Give her a minute, then go back in put her back and say don't get up, time for bed firmly. Keep doing this even if it takes half the night as it did with my little darling!
It's a pain but worth it when it works.
On fretful nights I also run myself a bath with lavender bath foam. The soothing smells seeps into their room and knocks my two right out!
You could just run a very hot little shallow bath and unplug it when she's asleep for safety.

Good luck, I have been there.