I soooo wish I was skinny. I hate being Medium. HELP!

Why? What is wrong with a medium thats a 10-12 a very very healthy size to be, why do you want to be skinny, define skinny to me, size what exactly? I am a size 10-12 and I am very healthy, in good shape and I am very happy with my weight and health, skinny is ugly and not very attractive, take Victoria Beckham, that is skinny and that is not nice to look at? How old are you? Please note that a medium is normal and healthy? People can be large and healthy as well, but why girls want to be skinny is beyond me, I was very very skinny as a young girl and I hated it, I looked horrible, I use to hide my legs they were stick thin and in my early 20's I put on weight and looked very well and healthy and I have stayed that way after having one child, Please think about what you are saying.

Hi Beccabear, I am Naturally Skinny and would love to be medium sized. I really don't understand why people would want to go out of their way to be Skinny, as the abuse you get is horrible! As Regards to Brum Tina-you must have a huge chip on your shoulder! It's people like you that cause the abuse. Fat, Skinny, Tall or Short it shouldn't make any difference!!! Skinny people don't deserve to all be treated like they do. I'm an 8-10 and very healthy, thank you very much! Saying Skinny is ugly is a Terrible thing to say! I would never call a fat person ugly! You need to stop reading Womens Magazines and get a reality check! And Celeb Mags too! if you have to critise people. Yes I've had a kid too and am still sKinny!!!

Brandi, I didnt mean to sound that harsh to her, and I can assure you I do not have a chip on my shoulder, not in the slightest, never have and never will, if you read my thread you would have seen I said I was very skinny when I was younger and I did not enjoy being skinny, so why would I ABUSE skinny people if I was skinny myself in my younger days? as I use to get called some very nasty names at school and when I left until I put on weight. I can assure you I do not read Womens Mags or Celeb Mags, so you think because I mentioned VB that I read these kind of mags, wrong, I do not, she is plastered over papers everyday thats where I see her pictures and on the telly, so do not presume that I should get a reality check and stop reading these mags, so I suggest you do not jump to conclusions on me. As I said I did not mean it to sound harsh, maybe I shouldnt have said ugly, its not nice, but I was referring to VB, and how skinny she is, that is my opinion on her. As you say you would never call a fat person ugly, read my thread, I said people can be large and healthy as well. I have got friends of all shapes and sizes who are skinny, fat, tall and short. So I apologise to Beccabear as to my earlier comments, but please do not think its people like me, as you put it, that cause all the abuse? as I obviously read these silly stupid mags that put ideas into everybodys head about how we all really should look, yeah, we could, if we were all celebs, but reality is we all are not

Hi Beccabear, my comments to you were wrong, I should wait to see your reply before I know why you would want to be skinny, I apologise to YOU, please let us know why you feel like this? Is there a specific reason?

I don't agaree with smacking. How do you define a smack? And when is too hard really TOO hard? I feel smacking is the result of a parent is out of control and uses it as a way out of dealing with the situation. It doesn;t help, and it is very demoralising for the child.

Who wants to be scared of the people they should love most?

Children can understand a lot more than they can communicate. And if they are too young to communicate they muct be too young to be behaving badly. Especially badly enought to be physically abused.

I know some people feel it is perfectly ok, but that is up to them, we all have out own way of dealing with things.

Personally I could never do it. A simple explanation to my son about his 'behaviour' is usually all that is needed, sometimes he just laughs, and walks off, but he is only 2, I don't really expect much more. But with consistancy he will learn.

We all learn by our mistakes, and children are learning all the time, we have to give them a chance to do wrong from time to time.

I have copy and pasted the wrong thread, sorry girls!

I am not mad...... Mad that my original thread is gone though!!

Meant to say....

I have my baby weight stiil as I had my 2 close together and feel soo horrible at the moment. I have lost all my confidence, as well as the use of 3/4 of my wardrobe!

I don't want to feel ass though I am punishing myself for eating certain foods, and my list of foods I do like is very limited.

I would love to loose weight, not to be skinny, but just so I could feel better about myself.

I have an illness called Bulima- Not sure how to spell it but still. I hae become like this because of bullying from school!

School bullying made me like this. School is a dangerous place and I felt very unsafe

There are a number of reasons why I feel like a complete fat cow. And I am size 14.

reasons:
*School
*Dad
*Skinny girls (that my boyfriend looks at when they walk past Basically SLAGS!!!)
*Pressure from the television. (I don't read mags) I don't agree with them.

Hi Beccabear, I am sorry to hear why you feel like this, as you say school can be a horrible place, I was at school in the 80's and it wasnt that bad, still obviously got comments, but now-a-days things have changed from then, its plastered everyone, about weight issues etc. Your boyfriend is with YOU, not them, if he really wanted to be with a smaller girl he would be, he has chosen to be with you, no matter what. Its all pressure, size 14 is not big at all, I am between 10-12, mostly size 12 clothes and that is only one size down from me, all I do is go on the trampoline with my son (when the weather is good) and I have got a Lateral Thigh Trainer, they are brillient, you can get these now in Argos, thats all I do, just to tone up a bit, I eat a good diet as well, and all these things help me keep in good condition. Have you spoken to anyone about this, family member, friend or even your doctor?Hope this helps

Yes I have my own phycologist and shes really nice. I've only had an assment but still. I have an appointment rather soon. I also am a regular member at the gym. I go once a week for 4 hours or sometimes 2 times a week. Included in my Membership I also have a personal trainer! I have also lost 5 stone in 5 years =D. But no matter how much weight you loose your thoughts never change unless your willing to see the person you have become =(

Well hopefully your psychologist will be able to help you, I am sure they will and you have done fantastic with your weight loss, but obviously other issues need to be assessed as well and in time I am sure you will learn to love yourself inside and out and life will be very happy for you, I wish you all the best and keep us all posted, good luck x

I had an eating disorder before I was pregnant with my son, and that is the onlt thing that sort of cured me. But I will never be happy with my body, no matter what my size, so I am trying to love my body as it is. But it is bloody hard work.