I think that whilst a drink around children is not that bad, if a parent/parents drink a large amount in the home with their children present it is not only lessening the control the parents have on themeselves it is a very bad example.
I'm aware of people who drink a lot every night with their young children present, the adults reactions will obviously be slowed down and should the child be in danger of some sort, who is to know if the parent would be able to respond in the correct way?
a friend of mine was such a problem child when we were younger that she actually drove her parents apart. She'd verbally and physically abuse both parents and frequently caused arguments throughout the household. Her parents have now split due to the tension she caused their marriage. She has a younger sister who has never been the same since, and I just can't help thinking how unfair it is that she's had her life ruined due to the actions of her obnixious self-centered sibling.
in a way the parents allowed the child to do it to them,if they had a solid marriage they would have seen what the child was doing,and been on 1 side,instead of being on the childs side.
Couples split up for all kinds of reasons. The finer details aren't always known to the children, whatever their ages. It would be a shame for two siblings to grow up and not get along,because one blames the other for something she had no control over.
On the other hand, yes it is amazing just how much distress one person can cause.
_What is your opinion on parents, or a parent, who drink a lot in the home around their children?_
Very interesting choice of phrase, taff, asing for our "opinion". As if it will not have happened to any of us. Odds are that quite a few forumites grew up with an alcoholic parent and/or still have to cope with one.
Thing is that there is no one "alcoholic parent". An alcoholic parent can just sit in a stupor in the corner for years being miserable. Or they can be positively dangerous - whether being violent or, say, a fire hazard because they forget they've something cooking. Or they can be mendacious - dipping in and out of their kid's life as it suits. Or simply a drag, requiring constant care (like having to change their wet bed sheets each night).
I suppose all I can say is that nobody in their right mind would want an alcoholic parent.
my step dad used to dink an awful lot of alcohol and became abusive. i never forgave him or mom for letting him do that to me for 7 years. i now totally disagree with alcohol wont go to pubs and clubs and i certainly wont let people drink in front of me or in my own home.
