I have a 3 and a half year old and a 14 month old, my 3 and a half year old has problem with food and weight gain, what I don't know the doctors have basically told me to stop worrying since she was a small baby that she is following the bottom line on the weight chart until her 7th exam this month when one doctor turned around and said your daughter is quite underweight for her age havent you seen anyone about it, I swear I could of swung for him and I said yes including you and you all told me she is slow gaining weight and is following the bottom line, she also had some blood tests done and is seeing a dietician, but even when she does eat she still remains at the same weight, she also started to flare up with eczema last summer and it keeps coming back and I suggested an allergy to my doctor and he just said "Oh I wouldn't go down that route yet". So I am worrying about her and her weight constantly. My 14 month old she is a little madam she doesn't listen to "No" or "ah ah musn't touch or do" she is so stubborn and very very clingy. She won't sleep in her cot, she wants to come in bed with me and cuddle me, she doesn't want her daddy its me, I havent slept properly for nearly 3 weeks now and I am coming to the end of my tether, my husband and I are starting to argue all the time, we are in a tiny little two bedded council house, they won't move us into a three bedroom house unless we have another one, I lost our third last August at 17 weeks which was so traumatic and the doctor even wrote to the council about the stress and depression the whole situation is causing me. I have tried the leaving baby to cry in the cot then going back lying her down to reassure her and moving away, but thats just it, I can't leave the room because it is my bedroom, I need to go to bed. She will go to bed at 8pm but she wakes up at 12:30pm every night, she isn't hungry or thirsty she just wants me. Please can someone give me advice on what is wrong with my 3 and a half year old and on how to detach my 14 month old a bit so I can get some sleep.
Oh dear you are having a stressful time!! Children do put a strain on you..i have 2 one 3 and one 4. Regarding your 3½ yr old....try not to worry...my mother always said "if they can run as fast as their friends, they are fine". Just remember all children are different. If you are worried go back to the docs....not that they are really much use!!
Your 14 month, can you put her in the other bedroom. It may be a bit tight but it gives you some space. If she cries in the night go in once and then say this is your room now. And let her get on with it. YOu will be suprised what your other child will sleep thru!! If not, be strong in your own room...don't let her in your bed and insist she stays in her cot!! I have never let my children sleep with me (unless ill) as its never a good nights sleep for any of you!!
Get daddy to take them out on his own to bond is a good plan!!
You need to move your youngest in with your oher child. She will be comforted by her sisters company.
I have a boy of of 4 and a half and a girl of two and a half. My Daughter WAS a poor sleeper and would end up in our room most nights, so we took the decision to move her in with her brother to see if she would settle there instead, and it worked!
They are very close and sometimes I find my daughter has moved herself during the night into her Brothers bed and he isn't disturbed her at all.
I did have some initial concerns as my son is Austistic and Non Verbal and he needs a very strict routine but he is happy to have his sister with him. I would know if he didn't by him screaming, but it has worked out well.
Good Luck!
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My heart goes out to you. I know how you are feeling.
I really wouldn't worry about your oldest kiddo, kids don't starve themselves, and if he's eating properly, and is healthy and active, you have nothing to worry about.
As for your youngest.. when my little un was 2, I left an abusive relationship. When I moved out, I didn't have any Allen keys to take her cot-bed apart, so she ended up sleeping in my bed. My ex refused to bring the bed over, and cutting a long and painful story short, she slept with me for 3 weeks. When we moved up here, and she had her own bed, she still wanted to sleep with me. It took a lot of time and patience, but just by taking her back to bed and tucking her in, and reassuring her I was next door, gradually we got somewhere. I know how exhausting it is, and what it's like to feel at the end of your tether, but you will get there if you give it time.
