Hello all, I am Jonjoe, I have for several years been a single parent of twin boy's, One of the twins spent his first few months of life in Great Ormond Street Hospital as he had a condition what is commonley known as "water on the brain," Hydrocephalus and Meningitis. Now aged ten nearly eleven he has been diagnosed as having 'ADHD' - My point and view is - is this infact a label or is it a medical illness.
If anyone would like to chat about this topic I am willing to answer any questions and offer any help if required....
hi jonjoe I am a new member i joined the forum after watching the bad behavour show(Like yr comment) I also have 2 children and I am lucky they are both healthy. I have problems with my 12 yr old son but he hasnt got adhd I read a good book recently called Raising Boys by steve biddaugh(not sure if surnames correct) it has interesting section about adhd you might want to check it out.
i read an article about ADHD and it said that t is down to bad parenting,not nice to read about if your child has it and the kids with it have to take medication. I work in a senior school and see kids with it and one particular boy was very agressive when he started there and was very hard to control him but a year on he is a changed boy and a delight to have around.
my son is 20 month old and i love him to bits but i dont think he is progressing as he should. i feel he has selective deafness, he wont answer to his name and choose to ignore me a lot - but he would hear a pin drop. he only says daddy and bye the rest is babble. i try all day long and hes always on the go im pretty patient so i dont get angry and i try to make things fun, im pregnant again and wish he would go in his buggy (he wont walk either he wants you to carry him), if i take him in the car he screams blue murder same on the bus. if he doesnt get what he wants he headbutts the floor or me. sometime i feel he doesnt love me but then sometime when he wants picking up he comes to me. im hoping its just a phase and he will grow out of it. he has the face of an angel but sometime i think hes a devil. on the bus ive cried because he has been so bad, but when we get off he laughs. i think i need to go on little angel on bbc3
i have two sons, one has ADHD and recieves occupational therapy to help his co-ordination, balance and concentration. We have spent many years frustrated with his often off the wall behaviour. However we have also spent this time seaking help and advice so we can meet his needs and support him. I have also read publications which point to children / adults with ADHD being caused by growing up in a disfunctional family setting, i would be happy to challange this with confidance as i know we do all we can to provide the best enviroment for our son to grow up in and he has and will always have ADHD.
Hello Jonjo..I am new so this reply is rather late in coming! ADHD is a label given for a condition that can vary hugely from child to child. It is as a result of a chemical imbalance in the left side of the brain. It is far more common in boys. It can be controled by drugs if the case is severe enough,but the medication is not an exact science & has to be adjusted as things go along.The jury is out on why this is becoming more & more common,but environment seems to be playing a part (autism & other left brain conditions are also on the increase).Often ADHD is linked with other conditions,but not always.It is on the Autistic Spectrum,but not to the extent that the child gets the autism label as autism is a more servious condition in most cases. Some areas run parenting classes to teach parenting techniques & to offer support & advice. This does not mean parents have poor parenting skills..merely that it is harder work if you have to work out additional ways of coping & adjusting (for parents & the children)
I have a 13 year old boy who was labled with ADHD at the age of 6 now they are saying he may infact have aspergers and they cannot decide if it is as well as ADHA or instead of I do feel they like to label children very quickl;y without looking into it maybe because it is eaiser
It is very tricky to work out who has what unless it is on the more extreme end of the scale (gives extra clues). ADHD is on the autism spectrum,but isn't autism. However,it is possible for a child to have both. As they have key elements in both,it is tricky to work out..even for experts. Autism involves the triad. This is a three point clue which gives the experts an idea of whether someone gets the autism label or not. ( We all have autistic traits as a natural thing,but autistics are further along the spectrum). 1 everyone...2...most people...3 borderline autism...4..borderline autism...5 fairly autistic..6 autistic.. 7 autistic...8 severely autistic...9..severely autistic...10 profoundly autistic.. (think of numbers 1 to 1000 as it is more accurate). Not an exact science & children are still being mis-labeled due to the new info on chromosones. (Chromosones disorders mimic other conditions). ADHD has general patterns which experts look out for (GPs are not experts) & Autism also has general patterns (a triad of impairments). Asbergers used to be called 'high functioning autism'..A term not now used (but white coats still use it)!
I have never heard anything so rediculous! ADHD is a Nurological Brain Dissorder! it has nothing to do at all with parenting! it is the brain that is not functioning properly, it affects Motor skills, attention span, vulnerability, gross mood swings and the child/adult is unabel to control their behaviour, they also usually have learning difficulties (due to lack of concentration because of the hyperactivity)they can be violent and anti social and have moderate to sever language problems. The reason some people say its down to bad parenting is simply due to ignorance, if anyone is curious about ADHD or ODD (Opositional Defiance Dissorder) then dont just asume, please take the time to read up on the subject, do a little research, as far to often these children are labelled as difficult pain in the ass brats and thats far from the truth, these kids are often very frustrated by their own behaviours and dont want to be this way, they simply have no control. I Foster children with special needs including ADHD, so i know what im talking about. Yes lots of children display challenging behaviour but with ADHD the behaviours are to the extreme and with all the other problems that go along with it ie: speach inparment,poor motor skills, hyper activity, low attention span, anti social behaviours. these kids dont want to be this way and need specialised teaching so that they can learn like anyone else and a different aproach to parenting is needed also and they can make something of their lives if diagnosis is made early on.........ok im off my soap box now, just needed to add a few 'facts' here.
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Originally posted by latino lady: i read an article about ADHD and it said that t is down to bad parenting,not nice to read about if your child has it and the kids with it have to take medication. I work in a senior school and see kids with it and one particular boy was very agressive when he started there and was very hard to control him but a year on he is a changed boy and a delight to have around.
Quote: Originally posted by latino lady: I read an article about ADHD and it said that it is down to bad parenting,not nice to read about if your child has it and the kids with it have to take medication. I work in a senior school and see kids with it and one particular boy was very agressive when he started there and was very hard to control him but a year on he is a changed boy and a delight to have around.)
I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger and I hated it. It was hard because when I was younger people hadn't heard of it and they just accused me of being a naughty child. Luckly I caught it early and the doctors managed to treat it early. I am still slightly hyper and have to watch what I eat but don't need the medication any more. But the one thing I hate now when think back to when it happened I diddn't like the way my parents were treated cause everyone use to accuse them of bring me up wrong. I am glad now that there is more info about for parents and other people to try and understand it.
Originally posted by becky_23: my son is 20 month old and i love him to bits but i dont think he is progressing as he should. i feel he has selective deafness, he wont answer to his name and choose to ignore me a lot - but he would hear a pin drop. he only says daddy and bye the rest is babble. i try all day long and hes always on the go im pretty patient so i dont get angry and i try to make things fun, im pregnant again and wish he would go in his buggy (he wont walk either he wants you to carry him), if i take him in the car he screams blue murder same on the bus. if he doesnt get what he wants he headbutts the floor or me. sometime i feel he doesnt love me but then sometime when he wants picking up he comes to me. im hoping its just a phase and he will grow out of it. he has the face of an angel but sometime i think hes a devil. on the bus ive cried because he has been so bad, but when we get off he laughs. i think i need to go on little angel on bbc3
hi i had to answer your post because of the headbutting part when my daughter was the same age as your little lad she used to throw herself back and bang her head on the floor till she got what she wanted.i just wanted to say that as soon as i had my little boy (she was 2 1/2)she stopped and became an angel maybe the same will happen for you.i mean i could cheerfully throttle her sometimes but now she listens to me and does what she is told. i hope everything turns out ok for you i know what a nightmare it can be.
I have a question, I think my daughter may be adhd. She is 5, but constantly dumps things out like soap, cereal etc. I cant turn my back for one minute and then she's writting on the walls. Doesn't sit still. then if you get angry with her, or believe me I've tried all different disiplinary avenues. They dont work, she gets more aggitated. then will just walk up to her brother and hit him or spit on him. She's a monster and I'm at my wits end it seems like the only time she is enjoyable is when she's sick and cant move. She doesn't like to be touched or held either. Does this sound anything like this? or is it just me? Also I did make an appointment at the ped. psych. what exactly do they do? She doesn't sleep either.
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