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Originally posted by MichelleluvsPaul:

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
I just don't understand how a counciller will be able to help me when I can't even help myself...
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Hi Kim,

Firstly I feel I must warn you that I do not claim to know all the answers and i cant guarantee it will work for you but this is how i dealt with depression.

As you are probably aware, I nearly killed myself last year, i was under so much pressure that i just could not cope. My friends on here, my GP and my mum got me through and pulled me away from the edge. I was referred to a councillor and she got me open up about feelings i thought id hidden. The first session was just a ice breaker, but she got me to talk abmit my dad, the feelings, all sorts of things. I am happy to say now that i am now longer having counselling but it is there should i ever need it again. My advice to you Kim (and to others) is too try and open up to your counsellor, try not to clam up. It is hard I know, but just remember this, they are there to help you. I wish I could be there to hold your hand but as i cant i send you my love. If you need anymore advice, please let me know. I am very proud of you. XXXXX Michelle

Kim

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Originally posted by MichelleluvsPaul:

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
I just don't understand how a counciller will be able to help me when I can't even help myself...
x

Hi Kim,

Firstly I feel I must warn you that I do not claim to know all the answers and i cant guarantee it will work for you but this is how i dealt with depression.

As you are probably aware, I nearly killed myself last year, i was under so much pressure that i just could not cope. My friends on here, my GP and my mum got me through and pulled me away from the edge. I was referred to a councillor and she got me open up about feelings i thought id hidden. The first session was just a ice breaker, but she got me to talk abmit my dad, the feelings, all sorts of things. I am happy to say now that i am now longer having counselling but it is there should i ever need it again. My advice to you Kim (and to others) is too try and open up to your counsellor, try not to clam up. It is hard I know, but just remember this, they are there to help you. I wish I could be there to hold your hand but as i cant i send you my love. If you need anymore advice, please let me know. I am very proud of you. XXXXX Michelle

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
Jan you are great. Your always so thoughtful. Always thinking of other people. I don't know how you do it. I wish that I could be as selfless as you sometimes.
I feel quite crappy again. I don't know what is wrong with me. Dinner is taking ages... I don't even feel like I want it, I just want to feel like I am eating enough.
xx

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Originally posted by Jackie_S.:
sorry to hear you lost you parents SPOTTYDOG1

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Originally posted by Paul_Is_Fantastic:
Yea But When The Dinner Is Cooked Kim You Will Want To Dive Into It lol

Kim

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Originally posted by SPOTTYDOG1:

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
Jan you are great. Your always so thoughtful. Always thinking of other people. I don't know how you do it. I wish that I could be as selfless as you sometimes.
I feel quite crappy again. I don't know what is wrong with me. Dinner is taking ages... I don't even feel like I want it, I just want to feel like I am eating enough.
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it just comes with experience kim..as time goes on and various probs rise there ugly head from time to time,you get a better idea of how to cope with things..
my worst time was when my parents died a few years back..
learning to deal with the fact that they were not around anymore,when i had had their full support all my life was very hard for me as i do live on my own.
i suddenly felt very alone and isolated..
but with time it got a lot easier.and although i still miss them of course,it isnt anywhere near as bad anymore..

just eat a little of your dinner if you dont feel like clearing the plate.you wont waste away.we promise..dont think your mum and dad wud let that happen somehow..

btw you are not selfless..i have read some of the wise remarks you have given to other people on here,and they are not words of a selfish person..far from it..

jan xx

Kim

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Originally posted by MichelleluvsPaul:
Hi Kim,

Yes I am stronger now, but it has'nt always been that way. Time was when I would'nt even say boo to a goose, let alone shout at Paul (ILO you know!). There was a time when my confidence, my self esteem my strength and courage were all at a all time low, and I just could'nt face going through each day. I just wanted to finish it and be with my dad, to leave this world. Even my animals who I adore were not enough to lift me. Dont get me wrong I still took care of them but it just was'nt enough. I used to cry myself to sleep every night and wake up every morning thinking "Oh god, not another day for me to face. Depression did threatened to overwhelm me. Now, somehow, I have found the strength to break free, to rediscover all the good things in life. With the help of my friends on here, my mum, my counsellor and of course my GP, I have regained my strength, my courage and my life. It has'nt been easy but now I can face each day with a smile. to laugh and be happy again. There is now light where there used to be darkness. Take strength from my words Kim. You will get through this. Good Luck my friend XXXXXX Michelle

Kim

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:

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Originally posted by MichelleluvsPaul:
Hi Kim,

Yes I am stronger now, but it has'nt always been that way. Time was when I would'nt even say boo to a goose, let alone shout at Paul (ILO you know!). There was a time when my confidence, my self esteem my strength and courage were all at a all time low, and I just could'nt face going through each day. I just wanted to finish it and be with my dad, to leave this world. Even my animals who I adore were not enough to lift me. Dont get me wrong I still took care of them but it just was'nt enough. I used to cry myself to sleep every night and wake up every morning thinking "Oh god, not another day for me to face. Depression did threatened to overwhelm me. Now, somehow, I have found the strength to break free, to rediscover all the good things in life. With the help of my friends on here, my mum, my counsellor and of course my GP, I have regained my strength, my courage and my life. It has'nt been easy but now I can face each day with a smile. to laugh and be happy again. There is now light where there used to be darkness. Take strength from my words Kim. You will get through this. Good Luck my friend XXXXXX Michelle

That sounds so beautiful Michelle. I am so proud of you. I can relate to what you are saying about not being able to face each day. I have been feeling like that for ages but I think that I will be able to manage it. Hopefully the help of my counciller and boyfriend and family and pets will be enough to help me through this. Thank you for all of your help!

xxx

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:

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Originally posted by SPOTTYDOG1:

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Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
Jan you are great. Your always so thoughtful. Always thinking of other people. I don't know how you do it. I wish that I could be as selfless as you sometimes.
I feel quite crappy again. I don't know what is wrong with me. Dinner is taking ages... I don't even feel like I want it, I just want to feel like I am eating enough.
xx

it just comes with experience kim..as time goes on and various probs rise there ugly head from time to time,you get a better idea of how to cope with things..
my worst time was when my parents died a few years back..
learning to deal with the fact that they were not around anymore,when i had had their full support all my life was very hard for me as i do live on my own.
i suddenly felt very alone and isolated..
but with time it got a lot easier.and although i still miss them of course,it isnt anywhere near as bad anymore..

just eat a little of your dinner if you dont feel like clearing the plate.you wont waste away.we promise..dont think your mum and dad wud let that happen somehow..

btw you are not selfless..i have read some of the wise remarks you have given to other people on here,and they are not words of a selfish person..far from it..

jan xx

Hi Jan
Yeah I ate some of my dinner. Not all of it. I had the chicken, carrots and 3 yorkshire puds but I just didn't feel like eating the rest. My mum and dad just said to me 'whenever you're ready' and afterwards they talked about my anxiety and helped me a lot. I am so sorry to hear that your parents died. That must of been a very hard time for you, and if you ever need anyone to talk to about it, you can talk to me. (I'd give you my e-mail address but I don't know if it is against the rules to post my e-mail address on here...)
Thank you for thinking that I am not selfish It's so nice to know that you think that about me because I try really hard to be a nice person. I like to think that I've helped people.
Thanks for everything!
xxx