Good Kim That What Friends Are For

No Matter What Happens We Will Always Be There For Each Other

Thank you so much. That means a lot to me right now
xx

Hi Kim,

Let me tell you how proud I am of you for making the first difficult step towards councilling. The first session is kind of like an icebreaker,she needs to establish your exact needs. The next sessions will be more productive. Keep it up, with you all the way. XXX

quote:

Originally posted by MichelleluvsPaul:
Hi Kim,

Let me tell you how proud I am of you for making the first difficult step towards councilling. The first session is kind of like an icebreaker,she needs to establish your exact needs. The next sessions will be more productive. Keep it up, with you all the way. XXX

Thank you so much Michelle. I am so proud of myself for going through with it. She was really supportive and she said that I have nothing to worry about if I don't have an appetite because that happens with anxiety, but I should definitely try to eat something, which I had been doign anyway. I ate quite a lot today (mainly rubbish - but still...) and it was nice. I'm looking forward to the next session, hopefully it will be a bit better.
Michelle, do you think she will definitely be able to give me advice on how to deal with things better?
xx

Yes she will, Thats what todays session was all about, like I say she needed to establish exactly how she can help you. Trust me, she will help you.

Hi Kim, good on ya girl, you came through the first hurdle, like Michelle said the second will be better, and it will get easier. No matter what you think, you are never alone, and I help myself by thinking, there's always someone alot worse off than yourself. You have to believe in yourself, or you get nowhere in the world. Well done, to you for taking that first step. Keep up the counselling, and you will get there in the end, you will eventually see the light at the end of the tunnel.

hi kim..
i am really proud that you went through with it..
you are on the right track now.
today was just an introdution with your councilor
she just needed to meet you.she will i am sure be able to give you lots of support and advice once she has got to know you properly..
you stick to it and soon you will be feeling so much better..
glad you had your friend there to support you..
i was thinking about you all day and wondering how it had gone..
so pleased you went through with it..i was afraid you might pull out at the last minuite..
well done..
there's a few more hugs,

jan xx

Thanks for the hugs and the kind words everyone
I don't feel much better today, so I asked my parents if I could stay home. My mum is getting really upset about me feeling like this, so I am a bit afraid of talking about it. I'm just going to spend the day trying to keep myself occupied.
Thanks everyone!
xxx

xxx

Hi, OMGitsKIM, May I ask what your councilling was for.

I was councilled by Victim Support 3 times. One talks & they listen. Unfortunately the upset of it all having been burgled & continually attacked has never left me.

You will get better.

quote:

Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
Thanks for the hugs and the kind words everyone
I don't feel much better today, so I asked my parents if I could stay home. My mum is getting really upset about me feeling like this, so I am a bit afraid of talking about it. I'm just going to spend the day trying to keep myself occupied.

Morning Kim! I have had 2 sets of Counselling sessions - one a few years ago when I lost my Mum, and another set of sessions a few months ago when I was being bullied at work - they've both helped, but you have to stick with it as these things can't be sorted out overnight. The Counsellors are trained to listen and once they get to know you a bit better, they will offer practical advice, don't worry! Keep yerself busy today, and maybe try and go for a jog or something - honestly it really does take away anxiety. Tra for now, Vanessa xxx
Thanks everyone!
xxx

xxx

It's nothing to feel ashamed about seeking counselling, we all need some form of counselling in our lives, for alsorts of different reasons. Honestly it's nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about.

My parents haven't been too helpful, which has upset me a lot. They keep shouting at me, but I think it's because it upsets them that I am feeling like this. I don't know what to do. I just told my sister and she said she's going to come and see me whenever she can and that if I feel awkward telling my parents I can tell her.
x

Hi Kim, your parents are probably shouting at you, because they are worried, and don't know how to handle it. Pleasre make an appointment with your Doctor, and talk to him/her about how you are feeling. This will get the ball rolling, as they will help you, and refer you to someone who specifically deals with how you are feeling. Will you do this?

kim i totally agree with ems..
if you book an appointment with the doctor.it will give you another option as well,so that you dont have to wait until your appointment with the college councilor.
i am glad you have a sister you can turn to as well..

jan xx

to migitskim
I have never replied to a post before, but I know what a lot of courage it takes to take that first step of counselling. I wish you all the best, and hope yuou can find inner peace.

Lisascouse

Hi Lisa

Welcome To The Forum,Hope Yea Have Fun Posting

Hello guys. I just wanted to keep you updated and to get the worry off my chest a bit more. I stayed off college yesterday because I woke up and couldn't bear to face another day, basically. My mum and dad shouted at me some more and told me that I need to "effing bang my head off a wall and sort myself out" which hasn't been too helpful to me. They told me to quit the councilling because it wont do anything. I told them that I will, but I am still going to go and see the counciller. They have been doing the opposite of what the counciller has said for me to do. They have said I am not allowed to go in my room (my room is my safety zone, and the college counciller said to spend as much time in my safety zone as I can) and they have been shouting at me a lot which hasn't helped. They seem to think that the anxiety is something which I can just snap out of, but it could take months to get back to my normal self, and they don't seem to realise that. They keep on saying that I have let them down and I am upsetting everyone else, which I honestly haven't meant to do and it makes me feel terrible when they say that stuff to me. I feel like I am never going to feel any better. I keep on e-mailing the counciller but it seems the advice which she has is very limited.
I don't know what to do anymore.
Thanks for listening

xxx

Please help me!
xx

Kim, Please keep seeing your counsellor, and tell them what you have just mentioned on here. Also go to your GP, and tell tehm how you feel and what your parents are saying about it all.
Please don't feel you are letting anyone down, because you are not. I can't understand why your parents are like this to you, this won't be making you feel any better, if anything it will make your anxiety worse. Please go and see your GP, Let us know how you get on.

Yes, it is making my anxiety worse but they just keep on shouting at me. I really don't know what I can do about it anymore. I have trouble telling them things as it is, but with how they are being with me now, I don't think that I will be able to tell them anything ever again. My friend said to just tell them that I am fine and then to make sure that I see my counciller. I wanted to make another appointment with the counciller for this week but I don't know if I should. I don't really like my GP so I don't know whether I should go there. There is more of a chance that they will find out that I am still seeing people about it as well if I go to my GP. I e-mailed my counciller telling her that my parents are being like this but I haven't got a reply. I feel so bad lately that it is beginning to feel like there is only one way out for me and that scares me so much...

If anyone has any other advice for me, I would really appreciate it!
Thanks a lot!
xxx

quote:

Originally posted by OMGitsKIM:
If anyone has any other advice for me, I would really appreciate it!
Thanks a lot!
xxx

Kim, Never feel that you are letting people down, you are not. As for "the only way out" Trust me, it is not the answer, Please dont do it, for my sake, if not your own. Please continue with the couselling, many times I have felt the way you are now and believe me it is hard to overcome, but take it from me you will get through this. I am not trying to tell you what to do, just pass on some of my experiences. Please write back to us, we are all here for you.

Thanks a lot, that is really nice to know that I can come on here and talk to you guys. I know that I feel really down, but I keep on telling myself that I have to be okay because if I ever want to have a family of my own, then that is the only way I can do that. I just feel like I'm never going to feel happy again sometimes and it is hard to deal with. I think that I'm going to have to go to college in a minute which I really can't be bothered with, but I have to try anyway.
Thanks for everything Michelle. You're advice always seems to help me a lot.
xxxxx

kim going to college is probably a good idea right now..
it will keep you occupied and help take your mind off things if you are busy...
if your mum and dad are shouting a lot at you then that wont help if your couped up in yhe house,that will only upsey you more..
here's a few more hugs....
i was worried about you yesterday cos you didnt come on here most of the day.

jan xx